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writes: Everytime I see my boyfriend, I feel happy and at ease but... there are a few girls that make me feel really uneasy around him. When these girls are around i feel like hes going to leave me for them. Because to me they are alot prettier than I and from what i've heard in the past is that he has a thing for blondes and that doesn't help me much... And i'm afraid that if i ask him about it he will become angry with me and never want to see me again. My passion for my boyfriend is beyond recognition can someone please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, gothic_chick +, writes (12 February 2006):
gothic_chick is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks alot everyone :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2006): It really sounds like your bf just being a friend to these blonde girls. I think you are feeling a tad desperate for his love and are worrying yourself, overly much about losing him. These are your 'fears' that are controlling you. Recognize your fears and build your self-confidence. Once you do that, this mindset of yours will fade away. Realize there is something magical about you that he likes...a lot. You need some encouragement on how to be the most confident, more charming gf, you want to be. Firstly, look to change how you view yourself. Realize he's dating you, not the blonde girls. Keep telling yourself that. Try to let go of the old belief 'I'm not great' and replace it with, 'I am great.' Stand in front of a mirror and look for things you like about your reflection. Do you have nice hands? Shiny hair? Soft skin? Pretty eyes? Think about your other attributes too. Have you got a nice voice, a dazzling smile, or a good sense of humour? If you can stop putting yourself down, you'll feel instantly more confident and better with 'who you are'. Positive self-talk is crucial, here but, it 's a long process so give yourself the patience to work at it. The words you say to yourself create your self image. Take your life off hold. Use the energy you spend obsessing about whether these blonde girls look better, to do something that will help you feel good about who you are. Remember to always smile, be enthustiastic, and filled with a positive energy. Start now, today, this moment. Learn to speak powerfully, to yourself.I wish you good luck dear and remember, believe in yourself.
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reader, TexasLongHorn +, writes (10 February 2006):
 Simple, relax about it. Why you think you are ugly? Just cool. They just want you worry about them. Just cool!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): whats with the *dumb blonde* stuff! How offensive is that? Try and get a little diplomacy hey and act your age....!
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reader, chrissymarie +, writes (10 February 2006):
 hunnie i am the same way with my boyfriend except one thing he likes the bigger hipped gurls and i am a size 0-3, and i talked to him about it and he said if i wanted to be with them i would have never asked you out.....
dont worry about them blonde chicks yeah i am a blonde but most of them are dumb! he picked you and thats all you have to worrie about, if he wanted to be with the other females he would have never asked you out.....
well good luck you have nothing to worrie about
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2006): He picked you if he wanted some dumb blonde he would be chasing after them. Trust your man because he is all yours. And if it still bugs you bring it to him just let him know how you are feeling about the dumb blondes.
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