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writes:When you are in love with your best friend and have been for a few years and you know from others that she has said that she feels the same way how do you bring the subject up about telling her how you feel?She doesn't know how i feel by the way its just shes told others and because they know how i feel then they have told me. What do you actually say? When do you do it? How do you bring the subject up? I need help please cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): i agree completely with Jammy6026 just start a casual conversation and end with your feelings.
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reader, slickspurs +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Jammy6026:
If only it were that simple mate. The thing is what your asking him to do is soooo hard its unreal. I mean to ask out anyone is in itself a major task but to ask out your best friend whom he claims he is in "love" with ... Geeeez
To the buddy in question, whatever you do don't rush it or be too eagre. Take your time and wait for the right moment. Make sure it is just the two of you alone without any interruptons, perhaps arrange going with her somewhere like ice-skating - or anything that you both enjoy. Afterwards as you walk home together or share a meal at a table, casualy bring the topic in question up .. Just whatever you do don't mention the word "Love" at this stage! Pay her lots of compliments on that day(i love your hair, you smell like a flower etc etc) .... then when the moment is right propose.
Only kidding with the propose part! You know what i mean - go get her tiger!!!
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reader, Jammy6026 +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Okay. Well, to start off with, just start a conversation like you usually do, then make sure you are alone with them and just calmly say something along the lines of.. "Listen, I've been meaning to say this for a while now but, i kind of feel like i like you more than best friends, i hope you understand"
They will then tell you how they feel about you directly.
The only thing you should consider before doing this is whether or not you feel confident. Remember that just a few words could change your life forever.
You may also like to consider whether or not you think the relationship will work out because i am sure you would not want to lose your best friend.
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