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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well me and my girlfriend of 10 months have been having numerous problems ranging from you basic arguements to trust issues and to be honest im not all that happy with the relationship. My girlfriend is currently away at summercamp for the next week and she gave me a "week long quilt free pass" meaning i can do whatever i want with whoever i want.at first i doubted i would use it on account of the fact that well i'm not very attractive and very few girls like me at all but lately i've been hanging out with a few friends who are females and i found out one of them really likes me and i gotta admit i really love being around her.when she gets back shes going to expect everything to be right as rain between us and even if i didnt know my friend liked me i know things wouldnt be great. the thing is i cant break up with my girlfriend no matter how much it would benefit the both of us because i cant hurt her like that and she would never break up with me no matter what i do and ive tried just about everything.so i guess the general question would be what should i do? but the more specific question i guess you could say is how do i break up with her without completely crushing her?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 Breaking up is such sweet sorrows.
Send her the pillow you dream on.
When she thinks of you , she can hug that pillow and cry herself to sleep.
She won't feel crushed because you will always be besides her.
If you find your pillow binned, then she will be O.K.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2008): There is no easy way to do it. But you can't go out with someone through pity, its not fair on you or them. It sounds like you really care about her though. You have to just bite the bullet, be honest, and tell her, reassure her that its nothing she has done wrong, but you just feel you aren't compatible. I just finished with my boyfriend and it was really hard and I feel awful and guilty, he was completely crushed. But I know it was the right thing to do... It won't be easy, but theres no easy way...
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