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writes:So here's the thing... I'm 16.I seem to have aquired a taste for older guys. Older guys that I can't have for reasons such as they are married or are dating or simply their is a rather big age gap. The thing is though, none of the things metioned above seem to bother me. I made the mistake a couple of years ago of dating a guy a few years older than me and I ended up getting into things I wasn't so sure of and then when we broke up it caused a lot of grief. Now I seem to have fallen again, this time for a married man, who shows interest back, we have frequent chats and flirt quite a lot with each other. I don't want to cause any harm so I am doing my best to keep friendly but, also keep my distance.I would just like advise as to how I can help myself get out of this dangerous "thrill of the threat" mode and back into the real world...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): I think you just have to give it time and see who your interested in that's your own age, there is no manual for getting over stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): Firstly, by realizing that is your pattern, that it is a problem, that it will end in harm to you and others, and by choosing a different behavior, just like you are doing now with the married man.If you feel this is some sort of compulsion on your part then seek the help of a therapist to get to the core issue and learn how to make better choioes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): Is the reason why you're dating older men because you're looking for stability or protection? If you are, then you need to realize that you don't need an older man to protect you. Perhaps try taking a break from dating and take time to focus on YOU. You don't need a man to justify yourself as a person.
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