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writes:about 6 weeks ago (I thought it was 4 but I was wrong...) I broke up with my bf because I was tired of the distance between us but he wanted to continue a friendship since he knew he could help me in the future after college... (he's in showbusiness and I am an aspiring director) so I said of course!about 3 weeks ago I started dating another local guy I knew and I'm not too sure about him yet... he's almost TOO nice...a couple days ago my ex came to town to visit family and we hung out while he was here and I realized something... I still love him, and I also realized I didn't care as much about the distance as I thought I did... like maybe he is the one no matter what the location is...we talked about it and he said he'd be more than willing to take me back once I freed myself of the new guy...how should I go about breaking up with the new guy? what should I say?
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Just be honest with him, tell him that you simply still have feelings for your ex, and that it is not fair to him that you would still date him when you wish to rekindle the relationship. Thats as honest as you can get, because its true.He only has three weeks invested in it, so he'll get over you in time. (Initially he wont see it that way, but you are doing him a favor by doing this now rather than have it happen if you two got heavily involved). Of course, Id suggest that you don't have any contact with him after you break it off. Guys don't respond too well to this kind of bruise to their ego, and understand that there is most likely the possibility that no way he will ever want to be friendly with you after this, but thats the risk you take when you pull the rug out from under someone. The heart wants what the heart wants, but remember this guy will rightfully feel used and screwed over by you as a rebound. And he would be right. So when you do it, have a degree of humility and respect for the guy you are doing this to. Just make sure this is what you want. Because if you go back to your ex and things don't work out, don't expect this guy to be waiting with arms wide open...LMAO!Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): you havebeen very selfish and aspire to continue with so.i should say be careful whatever step you take as it may affect your career.and if you wanna continue with your decision just be true to himbecause as you know you are not sure of your ex.and the distances keeping in mind too
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): You don't have to break up with the new guy, I am sure you like him also, I assume he lives near you which is more convenience than the long distance one.
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reader, tERi0N! +, writes (3 August 2009):
 i personally think that you should let him go easy and make sure you tell him he didnt do anything wrong to you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): all you can do is be honest and be very gentle.
nice guys seem to be more sensitive.
its only been 3 weeks he will be able to get over it.
good luck hun
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