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writes:How do I attract girls? What is the best way to get them to like me? How can I tell if they like me? What's the best way to flirt? I am not good at any of this, so any help would be appreciated. I am not a bad looking guy, I just need help when it comes to girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): Don't be the one who needs their attention as much as they want yours. You can WANT a girl's attention all you like when pursuing her, but she'll usually be turned off if you seem to NEED her attention and approval for your well-being. And above all else, look at what women actually DO go for in men, not what they SAY they would go for! Those two things are often VERY different. Women usually don't like to hear this suggestion because it brings up the uncomfortable fact that women like jerks. Don't suffer from the idea that women go for the guys who "earn" their affection by being decent to them. In my experience, there's not necessarily any link whatsoever between which male acquaintance deserves a certain woman's affections, and which male actually gets it. It's unfortunate that this can be true, but it's not your fault and it's not your duty to show them how decent men can be. (They'll tell you they love you for being like this, as a friend. And then they'll continue to sleep with the A-holes they complaint to you about.) Don't be more noble than the other guys out there if that attitude isn't really YOU. Just be you. No more, no less. The importance of confidence can't be overstated either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): Well first of all It sounds like you need to like yourself enough you know this is the first thing,
( and I don’t mean to go all guru on you) but its true learn to treat yourself better do things that make you happy such as a hobby or interest because this can be a very attractive quality to girls that you seem busy doing something you love,
Second thing is listen carefully when talking to girls and take an interest in what there saying, and then test the water and become more affectionate when your comfortable like take her hand or something, look into there eyes this is so important because this bonds people and thirdly the clues are if she seems happy and relaxed in your company you can be sure you’ve made a good impression,
oh and forth laugh talk about things you both find funny laughter really bonds people oh and one more thing show that your generous buy them a can of pop or give them a cookie Lol! It’s the little things that count,
good luck and try not to be too nervous remember until your comfortable its just like talking to a friend so theirs no big pressure,
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (17 September 2007):
 Just be yourself you cant make girls like you, so just being yourself will attract the right girls for you be confident with them and everything else will just fall into place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): This is not much of an answer but if u stick with it, it will work.(just be your self) never loose hope.
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