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writes:I have a friend that I like. I think he likes me back. He does and says stuff that is very endearing but doesn't really flirt. I have not met him but we have talked for eight years. He has given me his phone number which is great but I want to see him. We have talked about doing video chatting so we can see each other, talk and help me with language but it hasn't happened yet. We are supposed to meet for the first time next year but I'd like to see him and talk to him before. See if there is a connection enough to still meet up.How do I ask without pressuring him too much or sounding needy?
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reader, PrincessRiches +, writes (5 August 2014):
 If you have been talking for so long and you really like him, just casually suggest video chatting and see if he's up for it. If he makes excuses not to, see if there is a valid reason why, such as he hasn't got a webcam, or it is broken? Or, he could be someone different than who he says he is. Have you actually heard his voice on the phone yet?
He may be afraid of video chatting because he is afraid you won't like the way he looks, or that you'll not be impressed by him.
With the internet, I am sure you are well aware of the dangers that people may not be who they say you are. I would DEFINATELY want to see him before I meet up with him, and possibly research more information about him, just to be on the safe side.
So, when you are talking to him, just bring up the subject of meeting up, then mention that you'd love to see him before that, and ask how he'd feel about Skyping next time you talk. This won't be too pressurising, and I don't think asking him is needy...you have the right to know who you are really talking to, especially if you are planning to meet him.
If he is the guy you think he is, he's bound to want to see you as well!
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