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writes: Hi, I'm 14 years old and I really have a crush on this girl at school, I can't stop thinking about her, she's really cute and pretty, and she has a great personality, she's kind, sweet, funny and intelligent.I try to be kind, friendly and funny to her on MSN, but though I've seen her in real life we're not really friends and I've never said a word to her. I'm scared to just go up and start talking to her because she's always with her friends...Also, I try to have the nicest personality possible, I really fancy this girl for her personality but looks do come into it and I have glasses, greasy hair and acne. The glasses can be got rid of with contact lenses but my eyes keep getting infected. The hair greases up like an hour after I shampoo. And the acne never goes. I know I'd really want to be friends with this girl if she was not very beautiful, because she has such a good personality, but I don't think I'd feel any attraction to her.Also when I was in year seven I was a bit of a freak, I used to watch comedy programmes like monty python and blackadder and go on stupid funny sites on the net. I used to shout quotes out in the playground hoping someone would notice, I had no idea how to make friends.But now I have a label for being a freak, I do have loads of friends and they're all saying "go for it," even if this girl does like me and looks past my acne and greasy hair she might be scared to go out with me because she'd get ridiculed for dating a geek.My situation's getting better, my eyes are clearing up so I can go back to contacts, my hair is less greasy when it's short so I'll get a haircut soon, people are beginning to treat me as a normal person rather than a nerd now and I have loads of friends, but I've still not spoken to this cute girl in real life. How do I approach her? Should I do it now or wait until my acne and greasy hair and eye infections have gone? Should I tell her I have a thing for her now, or should we become better friends first?I hope you can help me. :s
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): As the lady says further up, glycolic cleanser is good. In my opinion u were like me when i was our age. I turned 17 then got rid of the glasses, addopted a cool new hair style(hair styles are everything). see a doctor for your infecitions or woteva. But id wait for that to go. maybe get contacts if u have glasses. u could also go to the doctor for your face. i did and got prescribed limecycline or tetralysal it think its called.. It worked
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): Don't try to be anything you are not, but do be honest and make your feelings known. Your appearance is not necessarily an issue providing you are clean and hygienic, and have a nice natural and unselfconscious attitude. Teeth, hair, skin and eyes are important for first impressions, so look after them and seek professional advice (chemist or doctor) if there are any real problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): Being a beautiful woman and having a winning personality myself, I can tell you that the only way to approach this girl is to DO IT. Listen she may look and act terrific on the outside, but on the inside she probably has just as many insecurities as you, maybe more. The only catch to approaching her is try to be prepared if she turns you away, but know that you shouldn't take it personally. She may have certain hangups over the type of guys she dates or whom her family or friends would like. But this isn't something to get bent out of shape over. Just wait for the next girl to come along. And about your little "flaws," those are all things that will clear up over time, but that doesn't mean ignore them. I have beautiful skin now, but believe me when I turned 16 my face erupted and did so for years. I strongly recommend trying some of (I can't say the name I don't think), but HSN (home shopping network has it) S.S.C. acne products. Just look up acne products on HSN.com and it's the first brand that pops up. Try the Glycolic Cleanser at night and the Daily Ritual Cleanser in the morning. Also the clear pads and dry-lo are awesome. If you have already tried it, disregard those recommendations. I can only tell you what truly worked wonders with me. They are a little pricy but worth the shot. As for your hair, I'm not as good on hair problems, but I do know that Neutrogena has some good products for oily scalp. Good luck with everything and remember being beautiful and having the best personality isn't everything, but a good heart is:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): tis situation is one ive been in, many times, and sadly alot of those times havent worked out! try using a different shampoo, and use conditioner. if you cant tell the difference ( well soz if you can but some guys cant!)it says on the bottle! this may sound girly but it works wonders on your hair. evryone, well round about everyone, gets acne. its not a big deal! yeh you dont look your best but it will go away! glasses arnt a bad thing but unfortunatly some people take one look at someone with glasses and label them a geek.its a really horrible judgement and i, alot more people, wish it would stop. a good way to win a girls heart is smile at her, help her and catch her when shes on her own. alot of guys get put off and shy when girls mates are around them but you shouldnt be. girls are generally really impressed that you care so much about the girl, you dont care about her mates putting you off. ( and that you are full of courage) normally being confident and "striking out" gets you what you want so be BRAVE and head for that goal! good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 January 2006):
 "Should I do it now or wait until my acne and greasy hair and eye infections have gone?" In a nutshell...YES
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): dude dont bother, cute young girls dont like nerdy guys. however my friend there is still hope. all you need to do is study a lot, bust your ass, and make millions of dollars and you will be able to get pretty much any chick you want
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (5 January 2006):
hey.iv'e been in your situation before.What i tried to do was become friends with the person first and after i really got to know the person i sorta hinted that i wanted to go out with him.it may take long but its worth it.
Good Luck hun!
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