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writes:How do I approach the topic of 'love' with my bf? He hasnt said "I love you" and neither have I to him.We have been together about 8 months now and I think I do love him and want to say it to him but I am so afraid he wont feel the same way, yet will say it back just because he feels he has too- and that would hurt having him say something he doesnt mean, more so then him just not saying I love you back. So how do I go about finding out if he loves me? Do i talk to him about it? If so, how do you start a conversation about that? and what should you say? Ive tried to be subtle and bring the topic up, by asking him if hes ever been in love before and he said yes. That was the end of conversation.Part of me is thinking maybe he is just to afraid to say he loves me? I think this because I told him that I want to wait to have sex, and one of the things I am waiting for is for us both to be in love. So maybe he thinks that if he says I love you, he might think I will think that hes only saying it to get into my pants?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Well, what you do is ask him if he loves you. If he asks you if you love him, then just say yes.
The worst thing that will happen is you finding out your boyfriend doesn't love you back. In that case, as much as it may hurt, leave the relationship. It's better to carry on alone and/or find someone who will love you like you love them. I'm not saying he's a bad guy (because nobody can help whether they love a person or not) but it's better to be in a relationship where the feelings are shared.
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