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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:why Is it do i only fall for bad guys the guys that dont treat me well? there was a guy that was intetested in me last year and i ignored him cause i still had feelings for my bastard ex boyfriend who ended the relationship cause it was boring" cause i didnt sleep with him" so after i got over my ex me and the other guy remained close and over time he has tried but i turned him away i wasnt interested then this year he too said i was boring because i wouldnt do anything with him..now i cant stop thinking about him.... then i have a best guy friend who has always been there for me through everything im just never been attracted to him at all..but i can talk to him about anything and i know he likes me a lot... what is wrong with me? why cant i appreciate a good guy?? and how do i know they are really good guys and its not just a show to get in my pants? im a virgin by the way
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2009): Attractions are not there to make us happy. They are there for animalistic reasons, nothing more. The world is full of people who have spent their lives in terrible relationships because of that glorious thing we call "chemistry." I am not trying to tell you to settle for the wrong person, I'm just saying keep your eyes open to the reality of things. I think half of romantic attraction is just feeling like this new person is a catch. Like he or she might be a little higher up on the pecking order than you normally can do. Conversely if you think that a guy is low on the totem pole (other girls don't like him so much, you could easily have him all along, etc) then you will be less attracted to him for no good reason at all. So start looking for a guy that you want to be with at any given moment, instead of looking for someone who you think is an accomplishment to have.
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