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writes: I'm 16 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. We're both new at sex and she just told me of all the times weve done "it" shes only REALLY enjoyed it once and I wish she enjoyed it as much as I do. Am I doing something wrong? How can I make it better for her? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2005): You are sixteen and still finding preferences. Talking is the most intimate part of a relationship. Everyone in a proper relationship has sex and we all know how you do it, but only two people know what was said, can't get more intimate than that! So talk, possibly say you could try things like kissing her body all over and you have a signal that means no thats not nice and agree no means NO! Ask her to do the same for you. Believe it or not if she feels she is not putting in the same effort as yourself guilt maybe what is stopping her enjoying her self. How many times can I say you must talk though! Start when the times right, don't just blurt it out in a middle of a cafe or is it diner in the states? But reveal something that is potentially embarrassing for yourself, to show that you are brave enough to bridge the embarrassment, she coukd find the confidence to do likewise before you know things will escalate and who knows maybe talking about it will be what she likes and it will be your lucky night? you never know!
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (21 February 2005):
 Which was the time when she really enjoyed it? What did you do for her that satisfied her that time?You are both new to sex so it may take a while, perhaps not so much for you from what you say, but for her to discover what she really enjoys.Try to get her to confide in you as to her likes and dislikes. This may not be easy if she is a bit shy but gently tell her that you want her to enjoy making love as much as you do.You aren't doing anything wrong, you just need to find out what she wants if she can tell you.Good luck.
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