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writes:hi cupids,my boyfriend always asks me if i love him for real, or if i am with him only because sexual intercourse happened between usknowing that from my region, a girl making any physical contact with her boyfriend is forbidden, he always fears that i am not with him as a result of love, he fears that i am with him only so he wouldn't tell anyone our secret.the true answer and it is the answer i always reply to his question: i love him dearly, i can't imagine my life without him in it, and that level of crazy love is what made me cross all the borders happily off course i fear that other people would know, but i trust him enough not to tell anyone even if we broke up, that is the kind if man he is, honest and responsible and would never hurt anyone even if they hurt him. just today, after 11 month, his frequently asked question: "am i with him out of love or shame?" made me ask him too: "are you with me out of love or responsibility?" his answer was so much surprising than i would ever think!he said:" after a month, i will be sure and i will answer your question"!!!!how could he not be sure that he loves me? how could he swear that he loves me and that i am the idol he worships and doesn't know if he loves me for real.i will not accept to live with a man just because he feels responsible for me! my virginity problem can be solved with money, but my lack of trust could never be solved.you need to know that he is not as wealthy as we are, and last time we spoke about it, he said that he is welling to get out of the picture the minute i say that i will not live with a 700$ budget even though he is working hard to double that kind of money, yet it can never be more than a doublemy request is please please tell me what to do?1-should i just leave because after 10month he is not sure of his love?2-should i wait the month to end while seeing each other, or should i just disappear for him to give the answer with no pressure from me?3-why possibly would he need a month to now the reason of his love when he has had 11 month already!4-could he be waiting an acceptance answer in some kind of job after a month and according to his job approval or disapproval he would stay or leave me thinking that that is the best for me? any answer can really help me think clear and choose right, please help!
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (15 April 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you so much for the answer, but you need to know that he made the rules no me,he said that uninstalling his side of the application was better for us!
anyway we talked later, after my initiation, and he said that he install it again just to decrease unit consumption on me and stuff, because we talk a lot and i made it clear that its not the installation of the application that bothered me as much as the fact that i was not told about the action, he said it need a face to face chat and i think we'll meet tomorrow
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i will try to tell you what happened as soon as possible
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (14 April 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthat is what i will do, i am not expecting the best future with him, we are very different in how we think but the love usually get us through, so time will show me when his love will decrease due to routine, if we are going to stay together.note: today he reinstalled an application on his phone that he said he will never install it again because it usually leads us fighting for this application makes it so easy to talk with his exes and even knew girls.i know h loves me, but we have talked about this situation before and he promised he will never install it again and he did, so when i knew i got so made and cried on the phone, knowing that he had installed it since yesterday and haven't told me and that when he said that he updated his status, by mistake! he changed the subject and said goodbyei then called again after i saw him online on that application and just screamed on him and cried and hung up, he did not even call again, what if he is cheating on me? i feel so disappointedwas it wrong what i didis it my false that he did not call again cause i was the one who screamed?should i call him later for he wouldn't actually cheat out of anger of what i just did?help please!
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (12 April 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you! even though he didn't propose but, yes he does , he loves me, he finally said it, he loves me not out of shame, and even though he regrets what he did, it is not the condition that keeps him so tightly linked to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2013): Seriously- you'd really leave a man you love so much rather than wait just 5 weeks or so for him to give you what might be the answer you want anyway?
The one year mark seems to mean a lot to him- maybe he's told himself to wait at least a year before using this word, or... maybe- is there any chance that he might be planning to propose to you after a year?
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (8 April 2013):
Lady in Love is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you alot for your answer, we passed 10 month and in 17th of this month we will be 11 month together, i have made it clear that i love him for him only, and i had left once before, so he knows i'm not with him only for that reason, plus i have the money to do the opparation and he know it, we have talked about itAnd according to his job, i know becuase he has applyed to all the possible places that may give him extra cash last month, yet he did not tell me about any repliesAnd offcourse i will not be happy if i'm a moment far, we practically do everything together, his presence in my life is all i need, and i fear walking away not only becuase of the hurt he will suffer out of that but also to hurt i my self will suffer of, i know he have his bad times, yet i can't see anyone but him holding my handsYet again, i can't see him holding my hands and thinking, what if!
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