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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My cousin and i talk frequently by phone. We text and message each other a lot. I never experienced such love and comprehension for any man (not even my ex husband) like i do for him. I love him from the heart. But my feelings towards him are growing deeper. He is my first cousin. I admire him so much. He is such a well accomplished man. Everything i always wanted in a man. We talk long hours into the night. He even comments he would love to date me if i weren't his cousin. Last time he spoke about a friend who was married to his first cousin and how well it worked out for them. I usually change the subject when he brings that up. I get so nervous but deep inside i want to be his soooo bad. I even got to the point where i am desiring him and all i ask is what the heck is going on with me? I am acting very neutral with him. Because of that, i fear that he might move on and that i might get the terrible news of him meeting someone. How can i deal with all this? I think of him morning and night. I want to call him when he doesn't. But i don't want to seem to be pushy. How can i go about realizing my dreams with him. My family doesn't care. Actually, my grandparents were first cousins. I want i want i want. But how how how???
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (30 July 2016):
 In some cultures it's acceptable to marry your first cousin. If you come from a culture that accepts it, then I would suggest that you speak to your parents about it and have them arrange the marriage...if this is what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2016): I am incredibly shy. I wish i could but the what ifs just pushes me back.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 July 2016):
 You said your family have no problems with it so what is holding you back? Tell him how you feel, ask him does he want to date and ask him does he feel okay about it. If you are as close as you say you are, surely you can be open and honest with him and ask does he want to make a go of things.
Just remember though that if you are planning on having children, it could result in your child being effected if you are both first cousins. But the choice is yours.
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