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writes:it has been about 1 1/2 since the father of my 2 kids said he has been cheating and met someone online... this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me he used to be a great father, he would be with his girls everyday help me out with my finances.. his brother died on 6/16/2011 he was 34 and they were 11 months apart... I don't know if this has a part in the way he is acting but it's like he up and moved overnight to a different town which it is the city that he works in... he states that he doesn't want to be with me we are just to different... he won't tell me anything about this girl that he has been seeing how old, what her name is anything but that she is from a different state and she is a traveling nurse.... but when i do let him see his kids he tries to sleep with me.. i just don't know what to do this is a big big change in my life we were together for 4 yrs and still love him with all my heart i just don't know how he could just up and leave his family!! please help and be gentle!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2011): yes i get support but it keeps getting less and less and less.... i just told him today there is no need to contact me any longer because he only wants to see the kids on his time that doesn't work so they do not need to be hurt or confused we will be just fine alone with my friends and families help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): Do u get maintenance from him for the 2 kids? Hun, i know u are hurting BUT plse be wise. You need to now hit him where it hurts most- His Pocket! Make certain that he pays for his 2 kids. Get a court order_ do this quickly.Be strong and make certain after you wipe away your tears to get financial support.LoveGirl
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (23 August 2011):
 he won't give straight answers probably coz he is ashamed and does not want you to know the extent of the dirty truth, and this is coz he doesn't want to hurt you and more than he has done - coz he does not want you to hate him - coz he wants things to run smoothly regarding his access to the kids and the fact that he still wants access to your bed.
you will get stronger, it starts when you pick yourself back up off the floor. its a shock whats happened, no doubt about that, the shock will wear off in time, then you can get down to the important business of getting over him
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): i appreciate the feed back it does help... it just happened alittle over a month ago and we have a 2 yr old and a 10 month which we planned the younger one just hurts and i want anwsers why he will never give me a straight anwser ever!! thank you for you input it helps!!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (22 August 2011):
how awful. i am sorry for you. only he knows why he has done this, maybe the death of his brother gave him a wake up call of sorts, or maybe his feelings just changed over time, maybe the girl chased him. what sort of site did he meet her on though? i do know that although you feel really really awful now, you WILL get over this, you just need to look after yourself and get on with your life, let your friends and your family get more involved in comforting you and helping you with the children. while he is still messing around with that woman, don't sleep with him. he either wants you or he doesn't - he can't have it both ways. if you let him sleep with you this will trash your self esteem even further.
he may get bored with his mad little affair and want to come back to you in the future. in which case YOU decide if you want him back
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