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writes:I really need help, I'm gay and I'm really depressed my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago and I'm doing my best to move forward but I just can't deal with is, this heartache is killing me, I miss him so bad, even if he finished the relationship in a very hurtful way, we had great times, but suddenly he was changing and started to be aggressive, rude and careless, he told me really rude things that broke my heart and soul, but I'm still loving him and missing him, I'm dying to text him, call him but I'm really scared cuz I don't know the way he will react, I can't find any strength, it's midnight here and I'm feeling so alone, so sad and melancholic, I gave everything my heart, body and soul to end up like this all empty, he even told me he hated me when we broke up, it was a really bad argument, thinking that he doesn't care about me anymore just makes me feel like I didn't mean a thing for him, how can people hurt so bad when we give our best to them?, help me understand this cuz I just don't know what to think or do, I just wish I could dissappear.
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reader, poshspice003  +, writes (20 October 2009):
I have been where you have been. 8 years and an engagement and we fight for a year about moving out west and he breaks it off over night. I gave everything I had since I was 18 years old...my heart, my soul, my body. He broke it off and I took him back. He cheated on me, disrespected me, ignored me, strung me along. And I STAYED. I know the pain is horrible, you just wanna kill yourself to make it go away. But you know what? Sometimes you just meet an ASSHOLE. It's so simple, but so hard to understand. When you love someone you expect them to love you back and care for you, etc. But sometimes they don't, and it's just a learning experience.To make you stronger, wiser. To not make you repeat the same mistake TWICE. It's only been two weeks for me and I just wanna die, but I know there's another side to this and I WILL get stronger and meet someone who CARES for me, and has self-respect. Please hold on!It does get better:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): Firstly I'm sorry your're hurting so badly right now. I too have given my mind, body, soul and all the love i had only to find it wasn't enough. That relationship ended in December and I still feel hurt and sorry the relationship is over. I have not contacted my ex girlfriend because my moods swing so badly between anger that she could hurt me so badly and the intense missing the love i both gave and recieved. But it has got so much easier since we first broke up. I still wish for her to return to me and say it was a big mistake, but i am living. I'm not looking for anyone else, if they come along they do, if not i'm ok.
You too will be alright and move on with your life. He may return to you one day, he may not. You're feelings are to be expected because the hurtful finish makes you question all the beautiful times, where they real? Did they ever love me? I think they did and it was real. Just for whatever reason our love was no longer enough for them.
As i said the hurt will fade just get on with your life. I've decided to start a masters degree something i've put off for ages. I wish you happiness xxxx
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 July 2009):
I'm sad reading this...probably because I've been there. I was recently with someone who I thought was probably going to be "the one" and well, I get dropped with lines of, "I never cared about you, I never loved you," yada yada and lots of other mean things that you just don't say to a girl. However, he was supposidly bipolar and had a bunch of other issues. Not an excuse, but whatever. We all have our own issues I guess.
It's hard to understand how people that you love and even though loved you back would say such hurtful things. I wish I could tell you why they do this, but I don't even know. But you're definitely not alone. You'll get over him eventually it's just really hard when it's fresh. Do what you can to keep your mind off of him the best that you can. And of course...don't call him or text. You'll only end up even more upset if he doesn't respond or if he's still being a jerk.
Write down all the BAD things he's done/said to you. Sometimes it's easy after a breakup to put aside all the bad things and remember the good things. But most likely the bad will outweigh the good, and hopefully it will help you realize that you don't want a person like that in your life anyway. Stay strong and in the future don't give so much of yourself to another person. If they give, then you give. But it sucks when someone takes and takes then treats you like shit. Hang in there, you'll be okay.
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