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writes:Do they males have more sexual urge then females.generally males show much interest on ladies and sex. similar desire is not seen in females, Is it gender variation or indidual variation Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 March 2012):
 It's culture and society pressure mostly. When scientist study arousal, women and men both get turned on and horny equally. But it's harder for women to get an orgasm, and women have to think about more than sex, they have to think about reputation, children, housework, parents and a ton of other things. As societies get richer, women have the money, the time and the freedom to become as sexual as men.
Your from India, you already see this happening, women in the big city no longer act like the traditional women from the villages, they refuse to marry young, and have boyfriends and lovers. The sexual myth that women like sex more than men (13th century thought) or women like sex less than men (20th century thought) all of it crap, men and women like sex the same if they get the chance.. Read the Karma Sutra (Indian text 2000 years old) it has some great ideas on this question.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2012): Lol, I have heard these same kind of answers all of my life. For one thing it is true that men can have many sexual urges throughout even one day.In the natural world where our bodies evolved this would have been fine and might have also been necessary for men (who had to deal with real life threats to their lives, bears other big animals) so biologically it made sense for men to get their urge done as fast as possible.However, someone pointed out that men biologically want to procreate the species by sleeping with as many women as possible within their lifetime. However as this is probably true to pass on their own genes within the wider genepool and biologically to grow the human population and diversity of it. It doesn't make sense on a biological note that woman would then be geared not to be the same way (since biologically they would also want to spread out their genes throughout the population).As for the other stuff I think you hit it on the head, a-lot of this bullshit between the sexes over making deals about who they want to sleep with, how many times they will get it etc, comes from a stupid culture we live in that tell's all males "your a fucking loser" if your not highly trying to be a hunter at all times (in getting females) but then tell's females "you should not be open about sex, or portray sexual anything" because other people will call you a slut?I don't know where this distaste within the culture came from on women that are openly sexual, but believe me ladies it didn't come from me.And to comment on someone's piece here, I don't think you are worried about males calling you names (because if they did and they are trying to get with you, even if they think it, they would be a moron to openly call you a slut and worse).No I think you are afraid what your women friends will say. I don't blame you though, again I blame the moronic culture we live in that tries to dictate something that is natural, and tries to dictate the roles that genders have to play out just to get some sexual pleasure that I think for most people once it' done's never seems long enough or "why did I have to go through all that shit to get just a bit".Unfortunately people like myself that are liberal and would do away with these cultural sexual mannerism's and just let men and women feel comfortable approaching each other and then making it clear that one or the other is interested and then you can do whatever; well there's not enough people like me to force the culture to change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): I believe that there are women that are as wanting as men,however to be liberal , perhaps 1 in 5. Most of these women have discovered themselves at an early age and have received comfort and "a good feeling" without the complications and repercussions of a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for exemplary answers
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reader, JL  +, writes (28 October 2008):
In a biological sense women are looking for a man to come around and be a perfect provider of food, children, shelter, protection. Men are looking for as many chances to do that job as possible to improve their chance of perpetuating their genes...
to put it simply...
Women are looking for one man to satisfy their every need
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Men are looking for every woman to satisfy their one need
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Sorry I called you "hon" anonymous. My mistake. I saw "female" instead of male at first glance. I know what you mean, though. Women are not as openly sexual in general as men. It is hormonal to a great extent, but, women produce a lot of estrogen, as well as a bit of testosterone. Estrogen is very much a "female" thing. Women have a different investment in a relationship than a man. Biologically speaking, it is all about babies. Women get pregnant, carry babies, have babies, nurse babies, do most of the caring for young kids, etc. They need to feel the man they are with is going to stay around and help provide. It is all biological...but also subconcious and behavioral. Even when women have no intention of becoming pregnant, their behavior is the same. They can't help it. They are just "programmed". Sorry, gals...not being insulting. You know what I am saying is true.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (26 October 2008):
 While there is definitely personal variation, I don't think it' can be denied that women tend to be less sexually overt. Women seem to be less interested in sex as often as men. The proof is easy to see. There are all kinds of ads for men to increase their penis size, stamina etc. If there was not a demand for those products they would not be for sale. You do not see areas of cities where women cruise for male prostitutes. Women don't usually go to bars specifically looking to pick up men. Men don't usually sit sheepishly on bar stools and wait to be approached by females.
The truth is that women have the power. The proof they they are more sexually choosy is obvious. Practically any women could have sex on any day at any time. 99% of the women out there do not do this. Men, on the other hand would abuse this power. The fact that women do not abuse it proves a difference. They simply do not think in the same way as men. For example, most single men would jump at the chance to sleep with a beautiful woman. They could act on the opportunity without much though. Most women couldn't do that. Women do not need to try to find sex. They can have it when they desire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): That does seem to be the general rule, but there are definitely exceptions. I'm almost always "in the mood" and my bf is the one saying "enough..." Then again, I'm in a committed relationship and am comfortable enough with my guy to express what I want.
You just need to find the right lady ;)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 October 2008):
Women do have the same urges but we hide it. What would you think of a woman who openly wanted sex all the time like a man. You'd call her a slut and all kinds of horrible names.
It is in a woman's genetic interest to be more controlled about having sex, after all, we can die in childbirth and you can just run off after you've got what you wanted.
We need to know that we have a commitment before we have sex and risk pregnancy. Even though we enjoy sex as much as men. Modern women who have the pill and condoms and good medical care can be more open about wanting sex but we still get labelled as something wrong.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): It is a myth that men are always ready to go for sex. They aren't, stress and anger at their partner are sexual urge killers as well as substance abuse.
All people are sexual beings, and the hormone testosterone has a lot to do with it. Some women produce more of it than others, and after menopause, if she is still producing testosterone, her sexual urges will go up and then she is with a man her own age whose libido is waning due to lower testosterone levels. Where is the justice in that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): (smile) It is called testosterone, hon. It is one heck of a booster to sex drive. Women produce it to, but in lesser amounts than men. However, your comment about women is not universally true. I have known some women who have tremendous sex drive. It is not just hormonal and physical. It is mental, (psychological) and emotional as well. Also cultural. Women who grow up in sexually repressive cultures tend not to be as sexually free in their lives as women in more open and free cultures.
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