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writes:i got a bit jealous and got mad. I apologoized to him. My jealousy was uncalled for but we had just been back toghether after a 2 month seperation, so my trusting him still needed reassurance. He told me it was disrpectful to him that I did not come over to the table where he was sitting to say hello to everyone. he did come over to my table but I was so mad that I went to the bathroom. he told my friend for us to join them but my friend a male never told me. If i had known that things would have been fine but i didnot and I was very hurt and upset. Now he wont discuss this or any aspect of our relationship. And now once again we are apart. I feel hs is being unreasonable not to talk. We still have talked about the incident that caused the break 2 months ago. I called him the other day and he said I am pushing him away with all the calls and text messages. I just dont see how you can have any type of relationship without talking about what happened. What should I do? How can I get him to talk? he talks with all his friends about things but not me. Most people would not even get upset about the incident but of course he does and it blows into one big huge mess. i know if we talk there is a chance for us but without that nothing. what can I do with this stubborn man.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Frankly, you both sound like you are very touchy and sensitive. There's a lot of hurt floating around here, isn't there? Perhaps it's a good idea to let the tempers settle down for a bit before you talk. Leave a message for him saying that you both need a little time to cool off, and ask that he contact you in a week or so. Then don't call or text him; let him make the contact. If he doesn't, well, you'll know that he's not interested in working things out. That things are truly over.
If he does contact you, then there's some hope. But before you discuss anything, you two need to agree on the rules of communication and talking about problems. Get those rules in place, you both agree on the framework, THEN you can tackle whatever drove you apart in the first place.
If you can't agree to rules of talking, then I'm afraid you're probably fundamentally incompatible. No blame needs to be assigned in this case; it just is what it is.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): He is acting like a child! I am sorry for your pain, but as Gina has said, let him think about it a while.
They say women are high maintenance, but this guy seems like he is not worth the effort!
Take this time to do some soul-searching and be good to yourself. Ask yourself "Is he really worth all the effort you are putting into this?"
I want to say more, but have to get ready for work!
Take Care!
Britt
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