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writes:I'm a 16 year old girl and I have fallen for a 20 year old male. He is everything I have looked for in a boy. Just everything about him is just something I dream about. My parents told me they will put him in jail. I told them to give him a chance and they said no. Well, we are dating now and someday we are gonna have to tell them. How can we tell them? Is this a bad idea? I need help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): If I was you I would wait to tell them if you guys are still together when your 18 then tell them...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): find out what the laws of your state are. Do your own resarch. Some states allow your age discrepancy. It's called a Romeo and Juliet law. You might look into emancipation also. I hope you make the right decision though. It's your life. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010): In what prudish society is 16 too young to date a 20 year old? Thats only a four year difference ffs.
A 20 year old guy and 16 year old girl have pretty much the same mindset.
Only in America...
Here in Oz, you would be free o move out on your own, have sex with whoever you want and drink in a private residence (not in a ublic one, you have to wait for 18 to do that). We teach our young responsibility rather than 'sex is bad unless you are married. sex will get you diseases and unwanted pregnancies almost every time, so don't do it until you are old enough to be legally not our business anymore'.
He cannot go to jail for dating you. If you are under the age of consent, then the most they can do is stop him seeing you for a while.
To go to jail he would need to have actually performed any form of sexual act.
And seeing as girls your age are kissing older people all the time and simulating sex in movis and on stage without any problems...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 March 2010):
 The more things change the more things stay the same. Laura, parents today do not worry less about their children. When we set rules and lay down the law to our children, it's not because we want to hurt or upset them, even though in their immaturity that's what they think, it's to protect them. Sure it's easier to let them do as they please, no hassles, no arguments, it's the "cool" way to parent. Yeah thanks, I'll take the high road on my high horse.
To the poster: Your parents are the people who care the most for you and your well-being. When you sneak around and lie to them you are not only risking losing their trust, which can come back and bite you in the butt, you are also perhaps risking your safety not to mention showing huge disrespect towards them. Be wise, listen to them, obey them while you live under their roof and under their protective wings. Your time to fly will be soon enough and you don't want to try that first take off with a broken wing.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 March 2010):
 eyeswideopen,
The kids of today's generations are no more the same as your generations.
You may teach them about ethics and morals but that is as far as it goes.
Who can claim that they have never lied to their parents when they were small?
Maybe hypocrites and holy than thou persons who judge others on their high horse.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 March 2010):
So Laura, you think a 16 year old should lie and sneak around her parent's back?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (29 March 2010):
Your parents have stated their stand on this issue and you should not tell them anything for now. Telling them would be a bad idea. Forget about telling them.It will only end your love saga.
I don't know why he can be send to prison for dating you .
Is it a crime to date a 16 year old girl in your country?
Only if he had sex with you because under the state rules, it can be called statutory rape if you are below 16 depending on which state you live.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 March 2010):
Sneaking around behind your parents' backs is just going to make matters worse. As anonymous points out, this is no boy we are talking about! If you can't convince your parents to let you see him even under their supervision, then you have no choice put to live with their decision. Their roof-their rules. If you don't like it then move out and support yourself.
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