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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and a half years. We have lived together for 3 years. Things haven't been good for a while and we argue alot, over stupid things. If we're stressed after work or tired, we take it out on each other, which leads to him going upstairs on the computer and me sat downstairs watching the TV. The spark has fizzled out. Last week we just snapped and he suggested we go on a break. He moved out and has gone staying at his mums. We went out on Monday to disuss our relationship and he wasn't optimistic that we would get back on track and work things out. Anyway, we have decided that he still stay at his mums for a little while longer, and stay with me every couple of nights. Then hopefully, he can start to move back in and we can work to sort this mess out. He is worried that in order to make our relationship work, we would both need to change our personalities, and this isn't the case. I think that we just need to change our attitude towards each other. I don't feel that we can give it a proper go as he is still at his mums, but i respect that he still needs space. If anyone has any advice for me that would be great, or if one of you have been through something similar, then please let me know how you got through this.
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reader, Eddiezbabygurl67 +, writes (21 June 2006):
 dont change your personality man, thats what makes u YOU! i think what you need to do is let him have his space, and if he gets mad about something no matter how hard it is, just hold your tongue, dont say a word, and if you do, let it be something peaceful, because two wrongs dont make a right ya know, plus u'll be stoopin down to HIS level and acting the same way he is which leads to bein hypocritical, being that you dont like how it is and you dont like how ya'll just snapp like that ya know, that is very stressful and having a job on top of that is even more stressful, i'd say just take it one step at a time let things happen as they happen, and if he's willing to be with you for life, then thats great, if not, just holdon loosely but dont let go! he might come back, ask him if he needs to talk about whatever's buggin him, and let him get it all out, and dont nagg about things if you do:) i hope i helped a little, have a super awesome day 33 Jess
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