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writes:why would my fiance want to dump me every time we disagree,how can this be love?
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Definitely not love or the basis for a marriage...hard to dump someone once you are married to them...although lets face it, divorce rates are high for a reason! You cannot possibly agree with your partner on each and every single thing - it wouldn't be normal. Healthy relationships are about 'agreeing to disagree' - if you pair have no mature way of problem-solving then leave him and find someone more compatible who makes you happy. Don't passively accept his behaviour of dumping you and then you taking him back. Don't settle for such a shoddy arrangement and feel glad you found out what he is like now before you commit to an unhappy marriage.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 February 2007):
 It's NOT love. If you truly love someone you want to sort out your differences not just "dump" them every time you disagree. Your fiance seems to be a bit immature and certainly not ready for marriage when he's feeling this way. The best thing I would advise you to do is sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him what's troubling him and why he always wants to end it when things don't go his way. Is he scared about something? Is he having second thoughts about the relationship? Is he worried or stressed about something just now?
He needs to let you know, there's certainly something going on in his mind when he wants to call it a day with you every time there's a disagreement. It's up to YOU to find out what...
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