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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months and just started living in an apartment together about a month ago. I know its too soon to say for sure, but I can picture myself spending the rest of my life with him. Everything has been great so far. But last night, I met his parents for the first time (they dont live near us), and I don't think it went very well...These situations are always awkward, especially since we've already been dating for so long. I was pretty nervous, since I wanted to make a good impression, but overall, I feel like I was quite polite and friendly. But his parents seemed to be TOTALLY uninterested. I dont necessarily think they DISlike me, but they certainly didn't like me. We went out to dinner and they spoke exclusively to my boyfriend the whole night. They never asked me anything about myself, and his mother often spoke like I wasnt even there: "Tyler (my bf) this is such a nice area you live in" "Tyler, your new house is really nice" as if I didn't live there too! I'm a fairly talkative person, so sometimes I would jump into the conversation and ask his parents something, but I'm pretty sure if I was shy and hadn't made an effort, they wouldn't have said any more then "hello/goodbye" to me.This is very upsetting to me, since I've always gotten along very well with my previous boyfriends parents, and I think Tyler and I will be together for a long time.I don't know why they would have any reason not to like me. Maybe they don't like that I never finished school and don't have a "real job", maybe they don't like that we're living together, maybe they don't like that their little baby is in an adult relationship. Who knows. Is there anything I could do to "win them over"? Is it even worth trying? I'd really like to have the best possible relationship with them that I can...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): You know what, who cares what they say. if you really love him then it shouldn't really matter!! Go where your heart goes. Its your love life.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (26 June 2009):
 I wouldnt worry about it too much, i know it seems that you should get along with your partners parents and make the upmost effort with them, but sometimes it just doesnt happen. They dont approve or you just simply dont like each other. I dont particularly like my boyfriends mother and i dont think she likes me too much either. But so what? A parents job is to protect their children, and no matter how old their children get they still always want to. So thats probably what theyre solely doing, trying to protect their baby by not being so nice to you. I wouldnt fret about it too much, you dont need to impress them. You got your boyfriends love and approval and thats all that matters!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 June 2009):
 I think you need to give them time, that and I think if anyone needs to "sell" you or the idea of you it should be your BF, not you.
Relax, if they see you are still there in 5+ months maybe they will start taking an interest, if not, it really is their loss.
How much have he told his parents about you? Do you know? I ask because as a parent I would be SUPER curious as to WHO the person my child is dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): i think that since they dont live you =. you should prob just let it go for now...thats what i do with my hubby parents..we got married and i met his parents after we got married..his parents wouldnt even come to our wedding..every time she calls and i answer the phone she gets all mad and hangs up the phone..i was very nice to them and talk to them..but they wouldnt have anything to say to me...but i dont really know what else to do..some guys parents dont ike them in a adult relationship...his mom feels like im talking her baby boy thats why she doesnt like me..hope it all works out for you...good luck
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