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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We have been on and off for 3 years and have known eachother for 4.Things started off great, but I started getting really clingy after 2 months or so. Every now and then, I accuse him if I cant get a hold of him, I hate when he hangs out with his friends because I am afraid of him finding someone else.I know I have trust issues. My dad left us when I was 6 and it really affected me. now, my whole outlook on guys is negative, that all guys are pigs, perverts, etc. I cant keep treating my boyfriend this way because of my past, but i dont know how to quit it either.Also, in august we werent a couple, BUT we did things couple do. We were basically trying to mature more before we actually "dated" again. Well, that didnt happen until 2 months later because when I was in hawaii, he started talking to other girls. He didnt date them, but he had naked pictures of one of them, two girls' numbers that i didnt know, and had texted another girl saying he wants to kiss her, etc. I found this out when i got back from hawaii. My friend said they had seen him at the mall with this girl. He denied it. After a month of not talking, in september, he finally admitted to it. he cried, apologized, showed remorse, etc. Said he did it for selfish reasons, like getting attention from girls because we were arguing so much. I believe he wont do it again, but something in the back of my mind is still worried and it comes up whenever we argue. How can I trust him more?? He wont talk about it since it's in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Doesn’t it fascinate you how males always come up for some kinda excuse for their piggish behavior, I believe that there are two types of men,
1. the man who is a pig
2. The man who tries very hard not to be a pig.
I have the same problem, my fiancé told me a lie when we first started dating 6 years ago, and I find myself still questioning everything about him, and on the other side I love him to pieces, sweets best advise I can give you, is make sure this man is worth your trust, trust cant be dished out to every Tom dick and his dog, coz if we did that the one person who really deserves your trust will just get a whole lot of insecurities, when you try to force yourself to trust a man who doesn’t deserve your trust you will start questioning yourself for not being able to trust, but the problem doesn’t necessarily lie with u, make sure he is trust worthy K.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): I understand as my boyfriend left one of his girl mates a message and it said love you at the bottom,, it broke my heart and I no he won't dobit again but at first at the back of my mind I wondered if he wuld or had done it again,, the best fing to do is to talk about it with your boyfriend and explain how it is still at the back of your mind,, I hope you sort it out good luk
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