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51-59,
anonymous
writes:long sorry.... please help!im gay and my good freind, probably my best freind, is straight,shes knows im gay and is 100 and cool with it and isnt threatened at all. A good freind.she has had a lot of pain in her life and was treated very badly by her ex husband, shes been divorced for years now. She is 100% straight and likes guys, shes never said anything abiut girls ever - I know nothing will happen, dont expect it to and and I dont want to lose her f/ship by doing s/thing stupid.I would never make a move on her. Im not in love with her but i am attracted to her in some way, i try to put it aside for our f/ship/ A few months ago one night I was at her house, watching TV, she was on the way to being drunk, (I wasnt, I dont drink.) She licked my neck and fingers then after a minute or so said "so do u want to have sex now"I pretended I didnt hear her and said "sorry what did u say" she then said " dont worry - its prabably good u didnt hear me anywaÿ"she was drunk - so I forgot it - we all get affectionate when drunk, so i thought nothing of it, it doesnt count right? its not happened again.It took a while to start to forget her touch... but im starting to now. she didnt remember and I never brought it up. shes not affectionate generally and would never hug anyone (including her parents,) unless shes was drinking. I am affectionate and dont mind hugging ppl, but am careful with her, due to her reluctance with affection.how can I totally forget what happened that night? why did she do this when she isnt gay? even alcohol doesnt make my other straight freinds do this.i value her FRIENDSHIP so much. thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): it does not mean she is gay but it could just be that she was drunk n lonley and you were there and you two are friends so she cares about you and trusts you. I dont think you should bring it up if u dont have feeling for her but are attracted to her then you should not because it will probly lead to awkwardness between the two of you. Everyone is attracted to people does not mean you have to act on it and you dont love her so i think you should leave it.
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reader, mister.m  +, writes (8 July 2009):
 Well, in my experience girls can get touchy with their female friends. So yeah, it's nothing absurd really. I think you're making too big of an issue here. I understand you value your friendship. So it would be wise to tell her about this encounter in a funny lighthearted way. Don't make a big deal of it, she probably won't either.
Good luck,
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