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writes:Hi aunts and uncles i am a 35 year old lady with 3 beautiful children and have just found out i am expecting baby number four with my husband of a year and a half (his first baby) my dilema is that my little sister has also found out that she is pregnant but her pregnancy is not like others and is peppered with tests and troubles ,she has been ttc for 2 years and this will be her first baby ,i don't know how to tell her in expecting too and i don't want yo take the limelight away from her special experience,what id some thing bad happens with her pregnancy and mine is fine i don't know what to do how can i tell her without causing a rift please do you have any advise Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 May 2014):
 My cousin is only 3 months older than I am. She was the second child to my mother's older sister and I was my mother's first.
I never heard of any issues between the sisters concerning this, in fact, the fact that they were both pregnant at the same time was good for them.
I LOVED having my cousin be so close in age. She has often said I was her best friend growing up even after we moved 6 hours away...
I think that you should figure out when the time is good and maybe just take sis out for lunch and talk to her about it and let her know you don't want to steal her thunder or over shadow her but you need to let her know something. Tell HER first (after your husband of course) and let her take the lead.
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reader, little sue +, writes (13 May 2014):
little sue is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much i think i just have to tell her and like you say and just keep things normal hopefully she will be ok
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 May 2014):
 Just tell her, and then don't go jumping up and down screaming with joy unless she initiates it. You can announce your own pregnancy without taking away her shine, it's your fourth after all. Hardly big time news, you've already announced it three times before. I don't think it'll be such a big deal. Just tone it down and don't go baby crazy when she's around, because if she's worried about her own pregnancy, seeing you being carefree about it might be extra hard. But I wouldn't over think this, you don't know how she will react, and keeping it a secret just because you worry about her reaction isn't really an option. She's bound to find out sooner or later.
I'd wait until you're 4 months along though.
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reader, CoopakaCupid +, writes (13 May 2014):
Hi, I think because you have done this 3 times already you have the experience and understanding that your baby sister is probably looking for just sit her down and break the news gently maybe even get a cheesy gift to ease any tension. I think this could make things easier for her as you will both be going through the same thing even if her pregnancy is more complicated. Also wouldn't it be amazing to have a cousin the same age and even better the same gender to share your childhood with? Hope everything goes well for both of you!!
P.S tell her first so that she doesn't feel like she has is the last one to know...
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