A
male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Dear Gays,I'm a gay teen and I've been thinking about coming out to my home family a lot lateley but it's not easy with two sisters waiting to meet my first girlfriend and my mum is a homophobe and it would disgust her and as my fathers only son I'm the only one to carry the family name and our family are so close and I'm worried it would fall abart when Ive come out and it hurts me that it would crush my familys hopes out if me but at the same time I'm proud to be a gay male and I'm not ashamed of it but I'm not sure how to stop my family falling apart when it happens and the only people I won't feel upset around is my sisters knowing they have gay best friends comforts me but the tension with my parents would be unbearable what should I do I feel like coming out soo bad but it's going to ruin everything!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 Where are our gay agony aunts for this one? Do we have any?
Well, I'm what they call a fag hag. A gay guy's go to gal, the best of all friends. I can lend you advice to what I've seen. One of my gays pretended he was gay I was his "girlfriend" at all his parents parties, one time he brought his boyfriend along with me, bad idea. Needless to say, his family knew he was but didn't say anything they just let him keep putting up a front. Another, hid it from his parents (only child) until his dad found ah um pictures on his phone. His dad was very upset didn't talk to him for awhile then accepted his son. Others I know they have no relationship with their father because of it, or both parents have accepted it because this is their child and they will support them in any way shape or form. The worst that could happen, is they wouldn't talk to you for awhile, make you go to church to try to flush it out of you (this is an extreme case doesn't happen often), and completely alienate you all together. If your family is that close and all very important to each other then chances are high that they will accept you or at least think you're going through a phase. They're not going to like it ever but if they love you then they will take you as who you are. I hope the best for you and keep us updated!
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