A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have met this wonderful guy last year and he asked me to move in with him. I gave it some thought and and said yes! Now, he asked me to get a full-time job where it would not affect my schoolwork. I agreed that it was cool enough to not depend on my daddy anymore. The problem is that everytime I turn around, he has a problem (or paranoia) about things I do. For example, I used the bathroom and he wonder what took so long. Another example is that he ask my daddy about things before he comes to me. This is happening before I even move in. How can I tell him to treat me as his equal? Reply to this Question
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female
reader, DrPsych  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 You cannot change his behaviour by asking him nicely to treat you equally. You have to demand respect by not tolerating this controlling behaviour, and that means standing up for yourself on each and every occasion that he undermines you. If his behaviour continues, then that is the way he is and you have to accept it or walk away. But don't move in until you are happy with him because it will be a big old mess otherwise.
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