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writes:Ok here's the story, I've been on this chat site for about 2 years, and because I was under the age you were allowed to join, when I joined, I obviously lied about my age, basically saying I was 3 years older than I actually am, I've built some very strong, good, and wonderful friendships on that site, but now I've only gone and fallen in love, I met this guy in person, and he's amazing. I'm really something special to him, he's in his early 20's and I'm his first girlfriend so you could imagine how chuffed with it. But the problem is he thinks im a few years older than I am, which really isn't good, I don't know how or when to tell him the truth, I'm scared of what's going to happen, as the relationship we've got is amazing, we've even spoke about marriage and it's only been a few months, someone please help, this is driving me insane.x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): hi.. you should tell him the truth and if he feels the same way about you as you do to him he will understand and he will still feel the same he might just act a bit weird because it is weird when you find out someone you love has lied to you but if he loves you he should understand and if he doesnt i think your just waisting your time
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reader, Lauren.. +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Hi..
I think you should just tell him your real age, because you dont want things to progress with everything being based on a lie. If you are really something special to him, then hopefully he wont be livid about the situation.
Maybe just say sorry for lying to him, and then explain why you found it hard to tell him after you met him and maybe this will make him less angry about the situation, if he is.
Tell him as soon as you can, but dont be surprised if he isnt too happy about the situation. And can i just say, that you shouldn't lie about your age on a site, or meet another person unless you know them, because for all you know, they could be lying about there age too and be older than they really are. On this occasion, you are ok, but just be careful (:(:
Good Luck, i hope it all goes well for you (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Just tell him. I'm sure he'll probably be surprised, or shocked, but its only three years off. I'm sure it won't make that much of a difference. Especially considering that you're his first girlfriend, I'm sure he'll get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys, it wasn't an intentional thing to start it off with that lie, I guess I just got caught up in the lie to begin with, now im having to pay for it, I just dont know how im going to do it though? :(
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reader, kitty_3  +, writes (20 December 2008):
 The sooner you tell him, the better... but catch him on a good day. And apologize.
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