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*reamflower
writes:I recently moved in with a good friend of mine. I am obviously a girl and he is a guy. We both work the same schedule and can provide for ourselves just fine. The problem is with our relationship. We are like best friends. We have perfect honesty and trust between us, but I feel like he might be developing feelings towards me. I am single, and staying that way, and I don't want to damage our friendship. He says he will never kick me out and he understands that I want to stay single. He even agrees that he should stay single as well. But he always confesses to me that he has a crush, and sometimes asks to kiss me (after we've both a little to drink).I really care about him and maybe someday could date him. But I'm not ready for that yet and we live together. How can I make him understand im not interested without damaging our friendship or moving out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): From what I've read, you already did?
I'm in similar situation all the time, sometime I have crushes on my girl friends, sometime they have crushes on me. Why? Because like you, I'm close to those friend and tell them everything.
Being good friend with someone is like having a relationship with no sex.
The way I see it, he already understood that you guys are just friends but he's still trying (guys ...).
There's two ways that I can think of to tell a good friend you're not intereseted:
1- I don't love you more than a friend.
2- I value our friendship to much to risk loosing it by "trying you out".
Those are the ones I used the most anyway.
Hope it helps!
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