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writes:I dont know how to tell if my new boyfriend really loves me. He has a past of being a complete playboy and hes had alot of experiance, but i havent i had one serious boyfriend who broke my heart after taking my virginity on our 10 month anniversary i got over that and i dont speak to him anymore. but now with my new boyfriend im kinda of unsure if i should really trust him. He in the beginning asked me out on my birthday took me to the movies and asked me to be his girlfriend. after one month we had sex and since then have 3 more times, he didnt pressure me into it i did it willingly but see what im unsure of is what if hes using me? how can i really tell hes not playing me? he says he loves me he treats me well, he talks to me, all those things. can guys really change for the best? do i give in and really trust him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): sounds like to me that he cares about you. You're just unsure of yourself, and you may have a low self esteem, because your unsure of your self. You need to watch the little signs that he shows. He may not say them out loud. Does he take you places and spends a lot of time with you? What is the age difference between the two of you?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (6 April 2008):
Its hard to judge from what you wrote if hes a player or not.
I can understand that his history of playing is giving you doubts about your relationship with him. Is there anything else that is giving your doubts? perhaps something he has said or done?
It seems to me that you are very worried he could be using you for sex. I suggest you dont do anything you are not comfortable, such as having sex. I know you have already done it with him, but it is ok for you to stop if you dont feel you can trust him. I think if you are going to have sex with someone, you should trust them. So maybe you could wait until some trust is built up.
You could also try talking to a trusted adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Hi..you're talking as if you are both in your 20's...."PLAYBOY" indeed....at your age, sorry, you have no idea what it means to be "In Love"You had one serious boyfriend who was patient enough to wait for you to have sex...then gone...you're kids...stay that way for a few more years...Live your life as a happy teenager without the presures you are talking about, you have many more years to experience what love, life, sex really mean...My last word is..."No, dont trust him"Dont forget, in the eyes of the law you are still underage for having sex !!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): People do change... It seems to me he's making an effort to change .... to me it sounds like he really does love you . Take advantage of this and love him back. your young . have fun and try not to worry so much . I know it's hard ... but try
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