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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have this friend named greg* well greg and we have known each other for about 2 years now but he has always viewed me as a sister-type and he thinks I view him as a brother-type, but really my heart has been breaking everytime I am around him because I love him but I can't tell him so, because his ex-girlfriend (heartbreaker, cheated on him,and I helped him get through it) just moved back into town and of course he went back to her (and she thinks I am her friend) which of course couldn't happen because I am so in love with greg. greg is always telling me how excited he is that her and I get along but he doesn't know that all I think about is how much I dislike her, and how much I wish I would have told him sooner. What should I do, I really need some help...soon.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (3 December 2007):
 Have you ever watched "my best friends wedding"? julia roberts was madly in love with her best friend and he ended up marrying cameron diaz. anyway, my point here is that not every case senario has a happy ending. in your mind you're hoping he will say he feels the same, and yet in your heart you know he doesn't feel that way.
you need to decide if you can primarily jeapodise your friendship on a hope of getting the result you want. if he sys no, you'll always feel embarrassed and awkward around him and his girlfriend, and if he says yes, you'll be thinking he feels enclined to say yes because you've always been there for him.
i think he is confused about what he wants because he is love struck on this girl who has a hold over him. even if he did finish with her, you know what is to be expected, having helped him through it last time. sometimes loving the wrong people happens to good guys but he is not going to leave this girl for you.
my friend is in love with a guy who has given her the run around for the past 6 years, and she has been dumped at leat 14 times, but she is blinkered by the perfect act he puts on. much similar to the girl you friend is with, undoubtedly.
maybe have a talk to your friend, say your beginning to develop feelings for him but you want to know how he feels before they get out of control and you want him to know that regardless of what happens, you want to stay friends.
if he's your best mate, he'll listen and understand.
best of luck.
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