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writes: I know all you readers are just going to think im a total slut and a whore and everything else you can think of but i dont know what to do about the situation im in. My parents both died in a car accident just 12 months ago and i have been living here there and everywhere (living with my sister... aged 27... but been with my friends a lot). I have got to admit my sister has been looking after me she has been there for me and she has let me have a lot of freedom but she has took it just as hard as me and she has an 18 month old son to look after and is a single mum. I have been staying with friends, going to partys, camping out and i started drinking a lot. i dont drink any more it only lasted about 3 month but i have turned to the opposite sex. I have been using lads to keep my mind occupied; sleeping with them when i have only just met them, oral sex, anal sex, normal sex, doing anything with anyone and i dont know how to stop myself. Its got to a stage now where roumers are going round about things i havent ever even done. I have found out im pregnant; only missed one period so i know im not far gone. My sister knows im not a virgin but she does not know im pregnant, i dont know wether to keep the baby, bring it up and look afer it, its not its fault what i have been doing or wether to get rid of it and start a fresh. I do personally know im not capable of feeding, clothing or supplying for a baby although my sister still has all my nephews things and although i would be able to look after it as i have helped bring up my nephew. I know im clean or got no STD's STI's or aything else. Does anybody know how i can stop throwing myself at boys and can anybody help me? Should i keep the baby? Should i tell my sister? I dont think id be able to go through the labour. pleasseee help me. jess - 15 - xx
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reader, sweetlilpeachx69  +, writes (2 October 2007):
jess i really hope you keep your baby like you said it isnt the baby's fault and he/she deserves a chance . i hope you realize there is help out there and i mean everyone needs help sometimes , i had a friend when we were your age she got pregnant and she had the baby and her family supported that! i also had a miscarriage at that age and i find my self wonderin how he or she woulda been i wonder what they woulda looked like and if it was a boy or girl i have a son now he is beautiful i hope the best for you ! talk to your sister and get her in put... i am sorry for both your losses
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reader, rockelle +, writes (1 October 2007):
 Jess,
I have read your post, and my heart goes out to you. I have a sister your age and being a teenager now-a -days is not an easy task. You have it twice as hard, not having any parents.You have taken the first step to changing the rest of your life. You have acknowledged that you are doing something wrong, it takes years, and years for some people to realize that much. It is good to hear that you do not drink anymore. Are you in school? I have so much I want to say but I could probably write a book. My advice to you is to go to your sister. She will understand. Please let her help you. Talk to her. As far as being pregnant goes discuss it with her. You are a young women, everyone goes through hard times some harder than others but you have to take care of yourself, and be there for your sister and nephew. She needs your love and support as much as you need hers. Turn some of the negative things in your life into motivation for you to work harder and be a better person. Do not let anyone take advantage of your precious body. Your body is your temple, do not abuse it with sex and alcohol, or drugs. You deserve respect, noone respects a person who doesn't respect thereself. I wish I could hug you. You are someones baby , that doesn't understand that it is ok to make mistakes. But do not make a mistake that could cost you your life. There are so many diseases that could be transmitted through promiscuous behavior. Do you use protection? I hope that you are not pregnant, ask your sister to take you to the Clinic. Get tested for STD's also. If all else fails remeber you have friends who are only a few mouse clicks away. I wish you nothing but the best... :0)...
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reader, rockelle +, writes (1 October 2007):
Jess, I have read your post, and my heart goes out to you. I have a sister your age and being a teenager now-a -days is not an easy task. You have it twice as hard, not having any parents.You have taken the first step to changing the rest of your life. You have acknowledged that you are doing something wrong, it takes years, and years for some people to realize that much. It is good to hear that you do not drink anymore. Are you in school? I have so much I want to say but I could probably write a book. My advice to you is to go to your sister. She will understand. Please let her help you. Talk to her. As far as being pregnant goes discuss it with her. You are a young women, everyone goes through hard times some harder than others but you have to take care of yourself, and be there for your sister and nephew. She needs your love and support as much as you need hers. Turn some of the negative things in your life into motivation for you to work harder and be a better person. Do not let anyone take advantage of your precious body. Your body is your temple, do not abuse it with sex and alcohol, or drugs. You deserve respect, noone respects a person who doesn't respect thereself. I wish I could hug you. You are someones baby , that doesn't understand that it is ok to make mistakes. But do not make a mistake that could cost you your life. There are so many diseases that could be transmitted through promiscuous behavior. Do you use protection? I hope that you are not pregnant, ask your sister to take you to the Clinic. Get tested for STD's also. If all else fails remeber you have friends who are only a few mouse clicks away. I wish you nothing but the best... :0)...
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 First of all im sorry for your loss, i really think you need to sit down with your sister and have a heart to heart, let everything out that your feeling and most importantly tell her your pregnant you cant deal with this alone whatever you decided you will need her love and support. Maybe getting attention from boys is your way of blocking out your feelings from the loss of your parents you get attention from them because you dont get it from anyone else and for a while you feel special and wanted i could be getting this so wrong so i apologise if i am. You need to start respecting and loving yourself again and you are the only one who knows how to do that, maybe counselling is something you should think about, i know people think its for mental people and weridos but ive been to councilling and its safe place you can talk about anything and not be judged and get the help you need.Keep us upated and stay safe.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (1 October 2007):
Your first priority ought to be your unborn child. Get to an outreach group that will help you birth a healthy child and adopt it to a loving family. Next, get yourself an education that will lead you to good employment. If you continue to act like a slut at least use birth control and desease protection. Maybe instead you should recognize your potential and only hang with people who will respect you.
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