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*jroller14
writes:This is a really weird thing to ask and talk about to me but how do you stop an "urge" to want to have sex.I went to my BF's house the other day and he said that he wanted to do something to make me happy and kept saying a bunch of other things. I got a really bad urge which is different for me cuz I've never felt like that before. But what I am asking is how can I stop the "urge"? It's very strange and I do not like it.(p.s. If there isnt enough info, just ask for more.) Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 June 2011):
 exactly you can't STOP them. it's biological it's "mother nature's" way of keeping the human race going.
you can lessen them by watching your activity but you can't stop them...
you have to be the one in control and manage them....a very hard adult thing to do
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (3 June 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question So basically I can't stop them, the most I can do is try to ignore them?
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reader, justme..x  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 The urges you're getting are normal, it's nothing to worry about. Perhaps it feels strange because you've never had it before, it's a new experience..?
As for stopping them, it's about being rational and having some self control. You're fifteen and you haven't even been together a month - I'm sure you can see that sleeping together under those circumstances would be "hasty" to say the least. You might regret it.
So when you get your "urge", (or actually before you actually feel it, when you're in a situation that you're likely to get it), just try and keep a cool head and remind yourself of that, be rational and sensible. Also keep busy. Try not to spend too much time hanging around at home (especially when parents are out) with each other, go out or something. x
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 June 2011):
ok so you are barely 15 and he's barely 16
and you are engaging in activities that give you the urge to be more intimate with him and the feelings that NORMALLY arrive from these activities are scaring you...
I'm glad that you just don't want to jump into activity that you are too young for. Being together a month or so is also not a lot of time... waiting is good.
How to make the urges stop? sadly only NOT having the activity that you do can make the urges stop SOMEWHAT. they will still occur.
sorry to not be of more help but the URGES you feel are normal.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (2 June 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell....I am about to turn 15 next month and he turned 16 2 months ago.
weve been together a little under a month....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2011):
because if you are 13-15 and your boyfriend is older I need to know now to tailor my answer.
if you have been together 2 weeks vs 2 months it makes a difference
and i'd sort of like to know what the bf did...
having him NOT do it or not say things should stop the urges to some extent.
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reader, Sjroller14 +, writes (1 June 2011):
Sjroller14 is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ So_Very_Confused
why should it matter our ages, and how long we've been together?
I just wanna know how I can stop it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 June 2011):
how old are you?
how old is your boyfriend
how long have you been together?
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