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writes:This is kind of an odd question. My husband I are happily married. We have three preciousness little ones. I am bi sexual, I've known since I was young, my husband knows, but lately I've been having urges to be with a woman. I wouldnt act on it, I don't really want a threesome (although I'm sure hubby would jump at the chance) is there anyway I can stop these urges? I don't look at porn or other women or anything, but I still get random urges. Anything I can do, or should I just deal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): Not to use anothers advice, but I agree in principle to the previous reply.
I am a husband and we had a very similar if not the same situation, after many deep serious and may I say from a mans perspective erotic conversations. We decided to arrange an evening for her to have a F+F with me just as a no contact spectator. It has worked out well for us & has become a once every two to three month solution.
However I do note from your question that you only state "urges to be with a woman" I am only presuming they are sexual urges.
Don't try to surpress those urges discuss them with your husband and find ways that will work for you both TOGETHER.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 February 2015):
 Your sexuality is a part of "who you are." and it would be unwise to believe that you could change that... Much like... if you are left-handed, trying to change THAT. Why bother????
What you have to reconcile is the INTENSITY of your feelings about your sexual attraction to women (as well as your, equal, attraction to men).
One way to handle things is to stifle your women-feelings..... One way is to ACT upon them. The greater question will become, how to handle this in the context that you have a HUBBY...
Why don't you tell Hubby about your conflict, and see if and how, he would like to be there to support you in this realization about yourself....
Good luck...
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