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writes:Im married and have a terrible crush on someone who is 20years younger than me! I have tried stop how I feel and thought I I was over it but it started up again.I really enjoy his company and like how I feel with him but know it's wrong. How can I stop how I feel without stopping our friendship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2008): Thanks for the responses.I did put some distance between us, it's tought though. When I do see him he seems sort of sad and that drives me nuts! I know acting on any feelings would destroy everything in my life so I'm also going to enjoy the attraction from a distance but not let it get any further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2008): I am in the exact situation you are, I'm married, the guy is about 20 years younger than me, he is also married, and we work together, and I too thought it was over, he and I both tried to disconnect from each other, but it's not happening. I am extremely attracted to him and it seems he feels the same for me. He has ignited feelings in me that I haven't felt since I was a teenager. I imagine being with this guy intimately and it brings me such joy. Our flirtation at work is subtle and discreet cause we're both married.
I've been married to my husband for 18 years, love him dearly, he is a good man and I don't want to lose him. I know starting an affair with this guy is risky and wrong. Perhaps it's best if I just accept that there's too much at stake, and we should just enjoy the fantasy of being together as well as our time being around each other at work. I think that part of the attraction is that it's forbidden because we're married, and I believe that these feelings for him will not go away and that I'll just have to live with it and accept it for what it is.
People say to redirect these feelings towards my spouse and as much as I've tried it's still not working, and I don't think it works that way, it just doesn't. Do you know what I mean?
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reader, cheesy-adeey  +, writes (12 September 2008):
well, i might not no muchabout this as i am a lot younger then you but i shall try my best , you should wait a couple's of weeks and see how your feelings develop, you may not like this man any more soo it might be a one of . But what ever yuo choose to do make sure it does not break your marrige unless you are truly sure that it is what you want to do , not being marriied any more good luck !
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