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writes:Ive been with a boyfried over two years now and love him more than anything. However, near the begining of the relationship i messed up and kissed another boy. I regret every minute and would definetly never do it again. The problem is now i have no trust atal for him i constantly think when hes out it is so easy for him to go and do it aswell. I really need help becuase this is ruining out relationship, its not just when he goes out, its when he speaks about girls looks at girls etc. I get so angry. Other than jelousy we never argue, i just want this to get sorted because i would hate for this relationship to end. Please help and suggest how i can get over this jelousy. I really want to make it work Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): You want to make this work, you will have to learn not to be so jealous. He has done nothing for you to think he is cheating on you.
Relax and when you see him talking to other girls, feel good, knowing he is your boyfriend. Feel proud!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): Hi
Ok so you kissed another boy! it is not the end of the world that was all you did.
Your jealousy is stemming from the fact because it was so easy for you to do this you see how easy it would be for him to do it too.
He may well not be thinking of doing anything but because you broke the trust you had by kissing another boy your riddled with guilt he will do as you did.
You are both very young and i would not be taken things too seriously at your age just relax around him if your tense, jumpy, nervous, he will pick up on that and give him cause to be suspect about why you are behaving so!
I think if you just be normal forget about the kiss it meant nothing at least you did'nt do anything far worse!
You just enjoy one another's company do things that are fun go to the cinema, hang out with friends, be 16/17!!
To stop the jealousy you need to learn to trust him and not take things too seriously be young be happy and above all enjoy life you are only 16/17 you have the whole world infront of you enjoy it embrace the days when you are feeling good and don't stop doing things just because the wee green eyed monster comes into your head now and then kick him to the kerb everytime he comes in and tell yourself i am not going to allow jealousy to ruin what i have with my boyfriend and when you do this you will feel much better take care.
Lady 52!!
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