A
female
age
30-35,
*ccusatives
writes:I am afraid I am destroying my relationship with my boyfriend. I am always challenging the things he says and making him feel as if he's wrong to have said them, even though they're nothing important - like him expressing that he likes a film I don't for example. After an "episode" of this behaviour I always find I feel very guilty and apologise but he will then tell me that it was his fault and he should be apologising. I have told him hundreds of times that he needs to be honest with me when he is hurt or when he feels I am unreasonable but he doesn't co-operate, he refuses to see me as anything other than some kind of angel, and I know I'm far from it.I don't really want to get sidetracked, I just want to find a way to control this side of me which seems to erupt at certain things, but I have been looking at personality disorders and was struck by how much Borderline Personality Disorder matched my own personality. I really don't want him to eventually realise I've been putting him through hell and break up with me. I want to stop my own behaviour since it's me who caused the problem. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, j.c.d.l +, writes (9 September 2010):
Don't be silly. You're just passionate about stuff. Tell him(in a nice way) to man up and stop being a wimp. Try and control(however hard it is) your episodes by breathing and leaving the room when you get worked up.
|
