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writes:hey man i have a girl who love me so much and am also very crazy about her but any b tyme i get mad at her i beat her up but yet still she love me canu tell me how to stop cos i love my baby girl so muchits all about my temper. Reply to this Question
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reader, raiders  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I personally don't see a women beater as a man I wouldn't think twice in sending you to jail but first I would have my daddy kick your butt, but not all girls are this smart. I wish she would open her eyes and leave you.
Now to address your problem there are groups that you can go too, there is anger management classes and also counselor for domestic violence abuser. I hope you get help and while you try to change your unmanly behavior maybe separate from your girlfriend while you got treatment so that you don't hurt her. Remember you don't hurt who you love, you are suppose to protect her and be her strength. Good luck and I hope you let her go and that you you seek help.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Sorry.
There is nothing you can do.
You can get help, but you have to break it off with her in the mean time.
If you don't I am sure someone who would actually stand up to you wouldn't mind break it off for you.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Man, I thought I had issues... I have anger, abandonment, and low self-esteem, but I certainly don't go around beating people up. If you love someone, you just DON'T hurt them. I agree that you should leave the relationship, if you can't control yourself then get away from her. Who the hell deserves to get beaten up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2010): I think it is good that you realise this is a problem. I think it would be best to seek professional help, to learn new ways of dealing with your anger. Could you maybe see a doctor, or find some sort of group to learn ways of controlling your temper? I really think that would be the best thing to do, to see someone so you can work through your anger, and the things that trigger it.
In the meantime, I suggest that you take a break from the relationship with your girlfriend, and spend some time apart, until you are better able to stay calm when you get angry. I know you may not want to do that, and neither may she, but I think it will be worth it in the end, to prevent any more harm to either of you. If you love her, walking away for now may be the best thing you can do for her, no matter how hard it is. It doesn't have to be forever. But until you can find a way to deal with your anger problems, I think it is not a good idea to be in a relationship right now. I hope you find some help through this, good luck. x
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 Hitting her is a weakness you have because you arent intelligent enough to figure out another way to solve the problem. She will only put up with being hurt so many times and then she will leave you. So if you want to keep her, learn how to control your anger. Next time you feel yourself getting angry, walk away. Go for a run or walk and go home when you feel better. Learn what it is that gets you so angry and talk to your girlfriend about it. Ask if she can help you find some help for your problem, whether its through church or a clinic. Dont just keep doing it because eventually you will live to regret your actions. Act properly and control yourself. Beating up people smaller or weaker than you makes you a bully and thats something you need to be ashamed of my friend.
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reader, SirenaBlusera +, writes (31 March 2010):
I hope this is a joke.
I don't judge anyone, but I don't sugarcoat the truth either.
If you truly loved her, you wouldn't beat her up.
How do you stop doing it? You simply stop. You are in control of your actions. No matter HOW ANGRY you are, you are in control of what you do, no one is taking away your free will and making you do it. You stop when you take responsibility and get to the bottom of this anger.
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reader, little me 05 +, writes (31 March 2010):
I dont know what to say I know my 1st husband did me that way......he never quit....but some guys are different
maybe you should go to a class or something...it will prob. help
Or maybe some friends or family maybe an anger class....
If you love her you will stop cause that hurts a women it tears them apart.....some women never fully recover from things like that.....talk to her control your temp...
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