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writes:Right i got dis friend lets call her 'Katy' and she's being really clingy to my other mate, who i'm better friends with than Katy. Anyway she's like constantly with us all the time, sometimes it really bugs me - i don't consider her as a good friend. It's like she always has to be involved in everything we do! Like on friday for instance me and dis friend of mine are stayin after school to practise for this play - it's only us two in the act we're doing, yet Katy has invited herself to come along and watch us rehearse! I don't want her there, we can do quite alright on our own wiv the teacher helpin us out. I don't wanna fall out with Katy, and i know if i tell her to back off that she'll make a BIG deal out of it and well.. she can be a nasty piece of work! How can i get her to hang around wiv her other mates as she always used to, my friend agrees that she's too clingy but how can i stop her from coming with us on friday? I seriously couldn't concentrate with her there! Reply to this Question
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reader, eskimoprincess  +, writes (9 November 2007):
Maybe she doesnt realise how annoying it has become for you, and maybe she doesnt have a lot of self esteem, confidence and friends of her own which is most likely why she wants to be with you all the time. You could tell her, that having her watch you rehearse makes you feel embarassed, or you could make a joke of it asking her, why shes so bothered when shes not in the play too. I would be very careful though as its tough making friends when your young. Arrange to do something with her over the weekend, irrelavent of the play, and without your other mate, and see how you get along, you never know, you might find her company more interesting when your other mate isnt there. If you let her know you care, and are willing to socialise at another time, this will buck her up a little regarding you not wanting her watch you reahearse. Talk to her, ask her what she likes, who she hangs out with, you might find out all she wants is a friend!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (8 November 2007):
 Hi
Maybe you could ask your other friend to ask Katy to lay off abit. I understand that you are feeling a bit suffocated with her presence. If that doesnt work then you should speak to her yourself. Tell her calmly not to come where she is not invited. You can also not tell her what your plans are so that she doesnt know where you are going and she doesnt just pop up. This is abit if a difficult situation.
Good Luck,mail me if you wanna talk
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