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female
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36-40,
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writes:Ok, well I have been dating this guy. He's great and I love spending time with him, but I feel fat in his presence. I know it's kind of dumb, but I can't help it. He's very thin and small framed, while I on the other hand, am probably 15 pounds or so overweight and curvy. I can't help feeling like we look odd together.Normally I like tall guys with a little extra meat on them, but he is completely on the other end of the spectrum and I'm having a hard time adjusting to this. It makes me feel bigger than I really am and I refuse to get on top during sex because I feel huge compared to his tiny frame. And even laying my head on his chest or anything I feel like I'm going to squash him! I haven't said anything to him about it because really, what can he do? I'm not going to ask him to gain weight, he eats plenty. I think he is just a naturally thin person. What can I do to help myself get over this?
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reader, PeanutButter +, writes (10 March 2009):
 I agree whole heartedly with the previous poster, there is litle you can do but be yourself and enjoy yourselfs being together and dont worry about your frame - if he is with you, he loves you for you, im sure he doesnt even notice - if he does, he must like it because, again, there he is!
I am 6 foot tall, im overweight by a lot and im not average by any standards - im a size 18/20 My husband is very very thin, tall, boney and maybe a 28 inch waist and totally opposite to me, but i fancy him the way he is and he fancies me the way i am - i would love to lose some weight for my own good but know he loves me no matter what, i did at first have some issues with looking like a whale in photos with him but you know what, if you love someone you just dont care after a while and i think you'll get to that!
As for being on top, you know what, its hard being in any position sometimes but damned if he's haing all the fun in the bedroom!! My husband may look thin but he's made of manly stuff and he's the one that pulls me around the room as if im supposed to bed in all sorts of directions - i think he forgets how un-supple i am, but thats great! i love sex with me on top but like you i'd never want to go there for fear of breaking the poor guy, but once you've done it the first time, theres nothing stopping you....he'll enjoy it and you'll enjoy it if you're both relaxed and happy with the situation, if you fel uncomfortable, try talking to him about it, perhaps some reasuring words might be the key!
We all come in different shapes and sizes but we'll all fit one way or another and its always worth a try - dont worry yourself over your weight so much, he loves you just the way you are, on top, on the bottom or swinging from teh chandaliers!!
Good luck!!
xxx
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