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writes: I have a bf. We are together 2 years. we have a kid. we are much in love but sometimes i feel like i hate him and then i wil go out and cheat on him. He loves me soo much, but wen i get angry i will go out and cheat on him. Sometimes i even dont feel a shamed of it, but i love him very much. He has cheated on my in the begin 2times and never a gen. I cant stop cheating on him. We are getting married in march. Wat can i do to stop? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006):
Stop the Horny Goat Weed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): I agree with "lemonpixie" this is not a good enviroment for a Child to be in.
If you carry on with this reckless behaviour then your going to hurt yourself and your child in the long run.
I think you need to stop making excuses, you knew he cheated and you decided to carry the relationship on regardless.
So maybe when you stop letting yourself use that excuse then you might realise how infantile you are being.
But more seriously if you cant let the past be the past, then it might be better for you to finish this relationship.
You cant keep having arguements then running off and cheating, why dont you try sorting the problem out there and then rather than brewing up the anger?.
you only have yourself to blame on this one, you started it so you have to finish it.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (9 November 2006):
 Your relationsip seems quite childish it's a scary thought to think a child is being raised in such unsavory behavior. I agree with the frist post, although i myself am not of religous influence maybe you should seek outside counsel, churches tend to give free counsel... or if you can find it a couples therapist. Children ideally should be raised is a happy union of two people and if they are unhappy and cheating left and right what is that going to convey to this child? Not too mention the possibility of all kinds of STD's including AIDS or you becoming pregnant or him impregnanting another girl... because as far as you know he may be at it as well with his past. I recommend counseling asap!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): how would u like it if he cheated on u time and time again. i think what u are doing to him is awful, hurtful, and childish. you should tell him so that he can make the choice to leave u if he wants. or maybe he can go and sleep around cuz u did.
u have a child in the picture. what is he supposed to tell her.
i would not recomend getting married at this time until ur problems are worked out. divorce is not cheap and i think if u get married u will be divorced months later.
if u forgave him for cheating on u in the past and hasnt done it since it shows that he cares for u and was able to change for u. u need to do the same. and when u both get into a argument of fight of some sort. go to ur room rather than leave and go and sleep around.
i hate to remind u what girls are called when they sleep around. do u even know these guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): You have a child and you are cheating?!! Come on grow up, how would you feel if you were stuck in the house and he was out there cheating. What are you trying to prove? Did you settle down too soon and have a baby too soon? How would all this turn out if you picked up AIDS? NO I'm not being awful but realistic. Think of the hurt and the pain you are putting everyone through just so you can have a bit of fun, and it is only a BIT! You have a bloke who loves you so much, some people would give anything for that and you are a mam.
Please stop cheating now for their sakes.
best wishes xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): You are unreal. This man doent deserve you at all, ok he made a mistake at the beginning and you apparently forgave him for that else you wouldnt be with him 2 yrs later on. But you make a feeble excuse that because you get angry you cheat. Does he cheat when he gets mad i dont think so. You say you love this man well i would love to know how you would treat him if you hated him. You are a very selfish, lying, maniplating woman and this bloke is better off without you and he certainly should not marry you under any curcumstances. I bet you havent even had the guts to confess what sordid little games you have been up to, but he will find out when you give him an std and you will most likely, i feel sorry for this man that he is being strung along by you pretending to be something your not ie a loyal g/f and suitable wife to him. Next time you feel angry punch a pillow or go for a walk but keep your pants firmly up and if i were you i would feel so ashamed of your behaviour but you cant and that shows everyone what type of person you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2006): This is from a guy whose been to church fewer than twenty times in thirty years, but I really feel you need to seek some religious influence. This should help you realize that there are greater rewards than those provided by sex.
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