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writes: My marriage is very sad. My husband lost interest in sex.Nobody knows for sure why. He is healthy. His hormons are fine. How can I stay with someone ,who I don't know why but does not want me? When he is trying to have sex, very seldom, I feel ,he is forcing it. Not even gets turned on. I feel no hope, after 4 years of this? What do you think people, how can I find out why is that,if he does not know it? Is it possible ,that he does not know it? Or just not telling? And,is it time for me to realize,it will never work again,and move on? Or what else can I try?We went for therapy, but did not help.. Any suggestion?Thanks
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reader, yodastud  +, writes (6 July 2009):
If you lost interest in sex as well, then there would be no problem you guys would still be happy. But you're in different places sexually, and that's the problem. If you still love him, and want to stay with him (you dont mention how you two feel about each other outside of sex - how are other apsects of your life?) you have two choices - get a vibrator or take a lover. You are responsible for your own happiness (and orgasms) and after 4 years, I'd suggest letting him off the hook and look after yourself. Who knows, maybe with performance pressure removed his interest may spark again.
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reader, May13  +, writes (5 July 2009):
 ok you have tried talking to him about his feelings. how about try to be separate for about 3 to 6 months and no seeing other people. Just no talking on the phone, cell, nor text or seeing each other anywhere.. but if it's by mistake don't say anything and just keep doing what your suppose to be doing at that time.. one of you need to live in a hotel just for 3 to 6months, you choose how many months do both of you agree on to not seeing each other. Just be Strangers in mystery. ;]. And if he doesn't want to try it or it doesn't help i guess if you want then you can get a divorce.tell me how it goes. Just say good or bad.Hopefully it helps.I just wouldn't what anyone to suffer in love or anything.
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