How can I show, that I am thinking of him, and he doesn't misconstrue the gesture?

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Question - (2 October 2010)

1 Answers - (Newest, 2 October 2010)

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hello. One of my male friends is having a hard time at home at the moment. He is looking after his sick mother and it is getting him down. I know being ill can make you curmudgeonly and impatient, but she treats him like he is her slave. There is only him that can help cos she has already drove her other son away with her attitude. So it is really getting him down.

His mother has some carers that go in, but most of the time it is just him and her. He doesn't get out much, and when his dad died he suffered with some depression and I do believe he still takes some medication for it.

I want to do something to cheer him up, but I don't know what, because he cannot go far since he is his mums main carer. He expressed an interest in something he saw on TV and mentioned it to me, and I thought perhaps I could get him that.

The problem is, I think he has a bit of a crush on me. I don't think it is too serious, but could not a gift, from me, just to cheer him, give him the wrong idea. I just want him to know that there are people who care about him.

He does not communicate well with people, you could almost say he was very shy. I know his mum must feel bad afterwards, but I can see she treats him like a slave and once I stepped in to stop an argument, but I could see on his face that though he was grateful, his mum was angry and would probably berate him for his friends interfering when I had gone.