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writes:Please help!!! I need some advice on introducing my bf to my parents / family.My father is a judge and my mother is nurse. I grew up In a very privilege family. Both of my grandfathers were judges and my family is very well respected in our town. I'm 22, I'm the youngest in my family and I have two older brothers.I met a guy a few months ago that lives in our town and instantly was attracted to him. He isn't someone I wold normal date or even find cute but his smile stole my heart.He is a great guy, funny, smart, very sweet and so much fun to be around. The only issue is he doesn't have the greatest history.He ran away from home when he was 17, got kicked out school, got into seem trouble legally. He has been in jail for theft, B and E and vandalism. He has since turned his life around. He went to school, graduated and is now in university. He works part time, goes to school and keeps out of trouble. I know my parents especially my dad will judge him as soon as he walks in the door. He has tattoos and ear piercings which my father hates. How can I show my parents that this once bad boy is now a nice sweet guy ?
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (8 August 2014):
 The only way to SHOW THEM how nice he is, is by letting them see it for themselves. Let them be around him, talk to him and spend time with him. They're bound to see what it is that you see in him if they see it firsthand. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2014): You don't show it, he does. I'm not saying he hasn't turned his life around, but those are some fairly serious charges if he got jail time, so allow your parents to form their own opinion of him and accept that there's a chance he will slip back into his old ways and your parents would be wise to consider that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2014): You don't need to tell them about his past if they are just meeting him for the first time. Let them see for themselves if they like him or not. If they don't like him then there's nothing you can do to sway their opinion, but hopefully they'll come around.
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reader, darkthoughts  +, writes (8 August 2014):
In all, you are of adult age and have control of your life and what goes on. But to show your parents your bf has changed you should go on a nice dinner and ask everyone to dress nice, and allow him to share his story to everyone. Once he done, mention how well you guys are together, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Not to sound chessy but mention God and it was his work being done with bring your bf and you together. Hope everything works out.
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