A
male
age
36-40,
*hyman
writes:Hello, I have really fallen for this girl, lets say Anne, off my course in University and she now knows this. I had felt awkward around Anne and wanted her to know why I was feeling this way so on facebook I asked if we could talk and she said yes ok. I met her the next day, face to face, and said I am sorry for being awkward around her. Anne said she had realised this and that I could be ok somedays with her and other days I wouldn’t be. Then I just explained to her it was because I didn’t want to be just friends in University. Anne said she didn’t know what to say. I just said it doesn’t matter and she said it does and I just said again it doesn’t matter and changed the subject. Now I felt I wasn’t completely honest with her so I text her saying how I really felt, that I really liked her. Anne text back saying she understands its hard for me but that it was hard for her too and that if I really want to be friends I had to get past this. This was last semester. I have lost quite a bit of weight whilst I had been off during the break from the first semester to the second and had been complemented whilst I have been out about my looks etc. The second semester began about a month ago and me and Anne had been getting on extremely well. Having a laugh, contact on facebook etc. I then shot myself in the foot the other day as I asked another girl off my course, in confidence, is it worth me chasing Anne. The girl told Anne this and then Anne then messaged me on facebook saying that she wanted to make herself clear, she likes me as a friend and nothing more. She is sick and tired of this and thought I understood this and were cool as friends. Anne said she has recently been relaxed around me because she thought I knew this but then said she was obviously wrong. Doesn’t want this to come up again, embarrassed by the fact I asked the other girl and that I can either put my feelings to one side and be friends or we can try and stay out of each others way.I replied I understand the telling off completely and that I went to the other girl in confidence only because of what Anne had said previously to me. I said I hope you understand it may be awkward for me as well as you the next time we see each other and on a lighter note I wanted to be her friend and hope she enjoyed the gig that she went to.As you can tell I really do like Anne and I am guessing you are going to say I should try and stay out of her way. But I have tried this before and it just made me feel even worse! I really do want to be her friend. The problem I have now is the next time I go into university and see Anne and the girl that I text in confidence. It is Annes Birthday in a couple of weeks and I really don’t know whether to say happy birthday or not due to the fact she may feel it inappropriate or something. I really regret texting that girl about pursuing Anne now as me and Anne were getting on extremely well. I hope your answer can lead to me and Anne being friends.
View related questions:
confidence, facebook, text, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): iknow this isnt what you want to hear, butyou really do need to back off. if you just accept her as a friend, and give your relationship a chance to develop naturally without the pressure, her feelings may eventually change. but if you continue pushing it, shes just going to start ignoring you completely.
|
