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writes:I broke up with a boyfriend of 1 year and 10 months at the beginning of this year.Basically, he "just didn't feel the same anymore", and had fallen out of love with me. Prior to this, I had also seen pictures of a celebrity on his computer in just her underwear and suggestive poses, and before that, he'd left his email inbox up, on which I saw new emails from adult dating sites. This was at least 5 months before the break-up- why I didn't leave sooner, I do not know. I think I must have been blind, because I blamed myself for everything that went wrong in the relationship, right to the bitter end, and he let me. Even after the relationship, he tried to convince me I was going mad, because I brought up something he'd said in our breakup conversation which he completely denied- it was the only thing I remembered from the conversation, so I know I heard him say it.Anyway.I am now with a new man, but I can't enjoy myself. He showed me some pictures of friends the other day but skipped the last view not wanting to show them to me. He insisted they weren't explicit or rude, but I wonder WHAT they were... and don't want to bring it up. Not sure how, but I know it will bug me otherwise.But other than this, what I feel is complete euphoria. But part of me is expecting the worst of everything, and I have turned into a complete skeptic.What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): First off what he happened with you and your ex isn't your fault the same thing happened to me except I fell out of love with my boyfriend. When things become samey relationships die out and this is a natural part of most relationships. It has nothing to do with you - you should just remember that you will meet the guy for you maybe even your new boyfriend will fill that role but it usually takes a few attempts first. And with your new boyfriend? I wouldn't worry about those pictures- they were probably just pictures of an ex - NORMAL pictures. Maybe he just didn't want to bring up exs with you so early into your relationship. I really wouldn't worry. Don't expect the worst of everything because you'll be suprised how many times you can be mistaken when things are innocent enough. If you really feel its getting on your nerves and it is rude or explicit - this shouldn't bug you. He's entitled to keep pictures of ex's and it's no detriment to you. Pictures are like memories let him keep his and don't let it annoy you. Ex's are ex's for a reason he's with you now. Hope this helps.
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