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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hi, Im feeling kinda confused in my relationship with my boyfriend of two years...i love him to bits, and he says he loves me but sometimes i really annoy him by nagging him and i dont know how to stop!! he says stuff like ' ur boring me' when i complain that he doesnt love me to him.. hes not very expressive of his feeling, not much of a talker, and sometimes can be quite moody.... he works long hours doing quite physical work so he does get tired. other than that hes very sweet and just loves cuddling.. especially when i want to talk about something! i dont want to ruin the relatinoship by nagging him so much about not loving me though! Ive had my last couple of boyfriends cheat on me alot before i found out and dumped them! iv not got alot of self esteem, i was bullied for years when i was a teenager, not physical.. more like isolation bullying and sometimes verbal. So I have little trust in others and even though i say that iv fallen completely for my current boyfriend, but i come across quite needy. Since iv been with him iv become increasingly obssessed with my weight I dont know why.. i count my calories throught the day, but then when i am home in he evenings i binge and binge, im not overwieght-yet- but im slowly putting on weight. he says he loves me anyway but i feel that if i put on weight he will cheat on me or leave me,but i cant help bingeing and overeating and in this way i become clingier and that will drive us apart! i also feel like im drifting away from the friends i made when i was 16/17. before them i wouldnt talk to anyone, but now (im 22) i feel like im differnt to them. I dont have a really close friend which is kind of lonely but im used to it now and its too late to start all over again! Im a happy confident person on the outside but not at all on the inside!Im sorry this problem was so long... so i guess my question is how can i gain self esteem so as not to ruin my relationship by being a nag and needy and clingy?! thanks for all your help by the way youre all doin a great job!
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reader, SUE7 +, writes (17 February 2007):
Hello,You are doing a grand Job! I just got married and am a bit the same we can give and take but it just feels like I boss my husband because of his slow learning dissability but when I wind him up I feel oh my god he tells his mum family, but at the end of the day he loves me and say's you know I love you really sweet things I am also deaf as well not totally,but we are happy to be together and yes I have put on 2 stone from size 8 when I was 18!! I think older outlook but going a little bit into a potato couch.. as for my husband he say's you need to lose a bit of weight as I was born with a heart defect but mended totally now age 25.or some days he says oh alright chocolate chicken burger.. but if you want to lose weight I truly think the answer is up to you whether you chosse or not.
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