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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend lied to me about a few things. I gave him another chance and he has been proving to me how much he loves me and wants to be with me. At times though, when I think about all the lies he has told me, I get so upset and I fight with him because it makes me so mad. I Love him more than anything and I know he loves me, he is constantly showing me time and time again. We are engaged right now, but at times I get so scared that he might lie to me again somewhere down the line or even leave me. How can I stop thinking about these things and put all that has happened aside and make things between us work, I hate having to fight with him all the time and getting so mad to the point where I feel like leaving him is the best thing. Please, help me, how can I forget about things and make our relationship work?
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reader, Sadi +, writes (22 February 2007):
 A relationship is nothing without trust.. But at least you have found it in your heart to forgive,.,, I comend you on that,., A few things you need to ask yourself is this...
1) Is he worth another heartach?
2) Is he the type of man you would want as a rolomodel for your children?
3)Would you consider him as a man of your dreams?
and my favorite one....
4) If you had or have a daughter, and she was in the same situation, would you want her to have another possible heart ach? Would you tell her to look in her heart, and let him go, so she could find someone to REALLY love her?
Those are the type of questions you need to ask yourself, and take awhile be4 you know in your heart what it is you want... ( not too long though ) No one can tell you what to do.. or make your decisions for you.. but you do need to decide soon. Cause if you waite like lets say a few months, that will give him a few months to walk over you more.. good luck...
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reader, cd206  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 I think it takes tremendous strength and courage to even try and trust someone who has hurt us. The thing is, it sounds like your trust is failing and without trust there's not much grounds for continuing a relationship because neither of you can be properly happy with having the trust or trusting the other. If you really want this relationship to continue you need to keep pushing all these things to the back of your head. I realise this is difficult but it's the only alternative to realising this relationship is dead without trust.
CD
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