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writes:I hate myself sometimes because my parents are always helping me with my life. It can be alright sometimes but mostly especially now that I'm 18 it starts to annoy me. I'm doing the opposite or something different to what my parents want because I want to prove them wrong that I can actually do something in my life without their help. What I don't understand is why I wanted to prove them wrong to begin with. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2006): You have parents who care about your life and are trying to help you make good, sensible, mature choices with you life. But you feel it's condescending and it annoying.. You 'choose to react and respond by doing the opposite of what they feel is right for you, just to prove them wrong. And now you wondering why you do this? You are 18 years and you crave independence, free of constraints and a life of your own. I think you need independence because you are frustrated due to feeling stifled and not being heard. When young folks your age act up like this, then it's time for you, to move out and make your own way, in the world. I always say when a young adult shows an inability to display patience for the people who have financially and emotionally supported her, this is a good indicator that you need to be on your own.. If you can't move out, I suggest you develop a polite, loving detachment to what they suggest , if you disagree. You can agree to disagree, you can let them know your opinions and thoughts, but do it with maturity and respect for your parents and in a way, that they will accept what you say. In a home all members of a family should extend common courtesy to one another and not turn all discussions into a race to see who's right and who's wrong. Now, stop doing this to Mom and Dad...just take yourself out of the race, because there is only a competition, if you choose to run the race, hun. Good Luck with your future, dear and Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, and what a coincidence, im doin engineering (civil) when i go to uni in september
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reader, kellyO +, writes (20 July 2006):
 Hiya,
Let me console you by telling you i felt the same way myself.Mine was very bad and i need to share it with you.My parents didnt want me to study engineering they thought it was too much stress but i rebelled and went ahead. I am my parents first female child and they didnt want me out of their sight. I had to beg them to allow me go to a far away university and they insisted if that is the case then i must attend the same schools as my elder brothers it was fine with me since i was tired of fighting. i was 16yrs when i gained admission in. They also made sure i shared the same flat with them in school and it was horrible for dating.
Parents are like that. They mean well but they never think we are grown ups. Doing opposite of what they say isnt the best way of handling everything becos that may seem as rebelling and you wont get your way. The best thing to do is what you think is best for you not just what they dont want. By doing this you will get to do what you want and since you have interest in whatever it is you will make it work and your parents will see the maturity in you and learn to respect you. THey will see that you can handle your own life and that you know what you want.With this you will still have a good relationship with them. Right now i have a great relationship with my parents and i wont trade them for the world even though we have our own differences.
Take care and all the best.
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