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writes:Ok, so I'm slightly embarrassed about this... but here goes.I've been with my boyfriend now for coming up 6 months, though we've known each other 4 years. I love him very much and trust him completely, and I just want to please him, so I need some help.We started having sex early last month, but he's... rather big... and it hurts me quite a bit. Is there anything that could make this better? People say to use more lube, but then it's just not as good for him and I don't feel like that's fair on him. He does so much for me to make me feel good, and I just want to make him feel how he makes me feel, but sex is sometimes so painful that I walk funny after or can't sit down. What can I do? What positions can change this? Also, I enjoy giving him head, very much, and I want to try swallowing. I've licked a little bit up before and it wasn't too bad. It made me gag but I handled it. Now I want to try swallowing it all, but I'm scared I'll gag a lot and embarrass myself. Any tips on how to help prevent this? Thank you in advance... x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): If you go slowly with a good lube like KY Jelly you should be able to handle a big one. Do not use petroleum jelly or hand lotion! Maybe its the kind of lube you use he doesn't like.
My husband is bigger than most guys and I stretched a bit at first. We started with me on top so I could control the penetration. Once I got used to his massive member (and had a baby) I loosened up and now he can just start right in on me and pound away.
In your case, you are still tight and if you are nervous too it may affect your personal lubrication. Go slowly and you control the pace.
As far as oral is concerned, you need to ask your self if you want to taste it or just let him finish inside you without any cleanup. When I first started oral, I was curious to taste it so I took the entire amount in my mouth. I haven't met a guy yet that can make you gag on it as long as you are prepared for it. If you do not have a sensitive gag reflex and can deep throat him do that as he is finishing and it will bypass your mouth altogether.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): well most peopel would call you well lucky having someone big alot of boys are a bit tiny latly lol ...
anyway try goin on top because you'r controling it more then n stuff if still hurts try playing abit more and then it wount be as long when you do start sex...
untill you feel more comfitable and as for the swallowing just do it without thinging and if you gag most peopel do soo don't worry :) hope helped ... x
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