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writes:My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of suggestions from you on how I can play this one cool and have some fun, play the game. Some suggestions please!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): This reminded me of a situation I had in my past.
Firstly, however, I would suggest that if you are not terribly effected about his infidelity then you should consider that your feelings for him may well not be that strong! And if you need to play games with this situation.
I had fun with a situation once! I was seeing a guy, thought exclusively for some time, had a chance to pop into his house during a work run. I had a key and let myself in as allowed, heard noises in his bedroom. Immediately I knew he had someone there. Called out and said I would put the kettle on for lunch. He had no idea I knew he had a girl in his room. Called out, "hey, are you going to get up and make me lunch!" He did. The room fell quiet, he came upstairs, made lunch, looked terribly nervous. I kept the conversaiton light and fluffy, suggested I left something in his room, he nearly had a heartattack!. Went into his room after about half and hour, no sign of anyone. I just started laughing. Came back upstairs and packed my bag up, little more conversation, by this time he was sweating from the brow, then I politely said to him, would have been now close to 1 hour, "thanks for lunch, your slut can come out of the wardrobe now, and this is the last time you will ever see me again you looser! Have a good life sunshine".
Never saw him again, but I still have a giggle today about it and the expression on his face. Still cracks me up.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 This is probably a "boring answer" - but I reckon you've wasted enough energy on this guy already if he has done what you think he has....why don;t you just ditch him and invest your time and effort in either yourself or some new, nice guy who treats you right! Revenge is tempting...but it will just lower you to their level (God...I just pulled out one of those "parent statements"...scary!!). That's my 20 cents worth...I just reckon you're better off letting it go!
(I did get a giggle out of the suggestions below tho...so if you go that way, make him squirm!! hehehehe)
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reader, Sugarbuns +, writes (28 May 2008):
 You could always order the most expensive item on the menu the next time he takes you out for dinner, then flirt your ass off with the cute waiter. You could talk him into buying you an expensive outfit, or a nice piece of jewelry. You mind as well get some kind of consolation prize for dating a jerk. Then after you've had a chance to cash in on his guilt, dump him and don't look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): And then what makes you any better then him?
Revenge is never a good thing. It won't make you happier, it will make things worse. Because not only is your boyfriend a dickhead, you will turn into a total bitch and that is not somethign you want to let anyone do to you.
Confront him. Call him on it and allow him to make his pleas for forgiveness. You know what you do then?
You do the right thing and forgive him. Life is too short to go on hating and no one likes the feeling. You don't need to foget about him being a jack-hole, but you do need to make it abundantly clear that if he ever so much as talks to another woman in such a way again, he will kicked to the curb and the only mercy you will show is not letting his ass get raped in jail.
Flynn 24
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reader, sweetyforlife21 +, writes (28 May 2008):
first of all did you catch him doing this? or did someone tell you? if you cought him than i say loose him, but if you heard rumors first talk to him ask him its true, because let me tell you listening to rumors is not good i suggest u investigate this. people can talk crap too.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (28 May 2008):
 First, it's not good to contain your feelings, if it is truly upsetting, you need to vent it, or it will fester inside you. My brother came home one night, and told me he went to a party and saw my boyfriend at the time going in to a bedroom with another girl. I, like you was thrilled that I had a heads up, and totally wanted to f*#& with him. I wasnt super attached to him anyway. What I did was call his phone and sing songs about cheating untill he figures it out. What fun for you, though, is they work together, right? I'd come in and make jokes about eating out, in front of everyone. Ask his co workers, 'do you like eating out? He does!" keep doing it untill he thinks your crazy. Laugh at him. Make him feel like a jack ass. It will be fun. But remember, it is normal to feel shitty when your BF does something like that to you, so maybe afterward, get a good cry in. Good luck, keep us updated.
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